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What Does Your Bestfriend Mean to You?

Posted on: June 1st, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Lovers&Friends

 

There is nothing like a close friend or best friend, especially when they are of the opposite sex; kind of gives you the best of both worlds.

 

Your best friend is a person who knows your ins and outs, what makes you click, likes and dislikes and most importantly a person you confide in. When your BFF is of the opposite sex, does it complicate certain things or does it make them easier? Sure you have the best of both worlds and you are able to get the inside scoop on how guys truly feel or what women really think but do tables begin to turn when the idea of relationship is at hand.

 

When it comes to dating a close friend it can be a sensitive subject. More than likely the history shared between the two parties is so special and significant, the risk of damaging the strong bond may not be worth it. Rather people know it or not, crossing paths from friends to lovers is complicated. The action itself can jumble the concept, details and obligations set forth in a friendship which can lead to chaos and disruption. In friendship a bond is continuously growing but when paths cross and roles make a significant change, more than likely the friendship you once knew or had, no longer exists.

 

On the higher end of things, the role reversal is not always a bad thing and this suffices when the connection and bond shared between the two people is strong and genuine. At times this will allow the relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife or dating, grown immensely. The downfall of this situation occurs when you believe you knew that person in and out but once the line is crossed and dating is involved, you discover certain things that are opposite of what “you knew.” If things begin to spiral downhill you not only lost a potential mate but you have lost your friend as well and all of the bonding and significant history that you two have built may not appear as clear as it once was before.

 

A true friendship can hold a significant amount of weight rather it is someone of the opposite sex or not, it’s genuine. Value the bond and connection that you may share, let it grow and progress.

 

 

 

 

 

-C.Johnson