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Tapping Out

Posted on: July 2nd, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

 

women in control

 

Most relationships have its ups and downs just as most things in life but when is enough just enough and there are no more ways of crossing the line? If needed, when should a person tap out and move on?

 

Did you know, in the United States roughly 30 to 60% of all married individuals will partake in acts of infidelity and if that’s not enough, divorce rates are just as high.

 

The act of cheating is not always from a physical standpoint but it is a common way of infidelity.
It is becoming more ordinary among people under the age of 30 and many believe the increase levels of cheating, stems from time spent away from a spouse. As they say, when the cat’s away the mice will play: people who spend a lot of time away from their significant other become victims to this madness. It becomes easier to develop a habit of having multiple sexual partners before getting married.

 

Physically it has been proven that men are more likely to cheat than women but with the increased levels of infidelity, statistics have shown  women that are financially independent begin to act more like men with respect to infidelity. It is sad to say but during times like this it almost seems challenging to trust your own partner because of the unknown.

 

In a relationship, trust and respect are two important and vital signs which aides a couple to move forward and progress. Along with trust, when couples reach a certain level in their relationship, expectations and dependency becomes very evident but what happens if the trust is betrayed.

 

 

 

-C.Johnson

 

 

Social Media and Your Relationship

Posted on: June 29th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

social media

 

Social media has become one of the largest bases of networking within our society.  Most people are so in tune with social media, it is the first thing they check when they wake up, when they are on a lunch break or even before they go to bed. The influence of this form of communication is so heavy it has even taken over the dating world.

 

Rather people know it or not or even deny it, social media does influence relationships especially in the present time. You will know if you are a participant within this stage if you have ever seen a post on Facebook or Instagram about your significant other that made you look at them twice, question where they have been in the last few hours or who another person is.

 

Social media has it perks as well as it downfalls when it comes to relationships and this is because so many people express their whole life story through these sources, if you’re mad at him or her you can easily post a tweet on twitter or a status on Facebook. Even if you are happy and everything appears to be in bliss you can express that as well but basically the exposure of your life is in the spotlight of millions of people; how does this affect a relationship?

 

 

-C.Johnson

Is Age Only a Number?

Posted on: June 28th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle
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Do you believe that love grows better with age or is it a mythical sense of thought?
Along with the list of standards, preferences are usually next in line to be evaluated when looking for a mate.  A common preference when dating is age, which has been one of the main inclinations when it comes to finding that special someone. At times the differences in age can be frowned upon when it is evident, on the display and breaking the social norm of what the majority are use to. Truth be told, the factors based on age are forever changing and exalt to different perspectives when it comes to dating outside or within specific age groups.
Younger women are dating older men and older women are looking at younger men, times are forever changing. Many may not realize it but some of the time people go outside of there age group not only to try something new but to go against the grain and step outside the comfort zone is a risk a person is willing to take to find exactly what they are looking for in a person.  Overall it is the individual preference in what a person likes or may even grow to love and at times it can be a result from a difference in age, style of dating and what you will do to go after what you want.
Some people believe in dating those who are more mature because they may have more to offer than someone who is young; such as experience, maturity and wisdom. When a person is on the younger side and fresh to the dating market and still experiencing the realm of dating, they are not use to or aware of a lot of things that a older person with more experience with dating is use to.
 
 Love is an emotion that is supposed to be expressive with a positive notion to share one’s feelings not discrimination in how one may feel or who or what they prefer.
-C.Johnson

 

When is it Enough?

Posted on: June 26th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

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The in between stages of dating or getting to know a person can be a very trying time especially when a person is truly into someone.  Is it the idea of commitment that prevents a person or a couple from moving forward, the fear  of failing when trying to be the ideal mate or even the lack of confidence, these could all be possible factors when it comes to harvesting in the in between stage.

 

All in all there can be many reasons but staying in one stage and not moving on to the next level can become a hindrance of becoming a potential couple or not becoming one. It is natural for most people to go through different phases before moving completely into a relationship which may usually entail getting to know a person; talking and dating. 

 

For those who do fall victim to the in between stage, can seek ways to diminish the problem. Most importantly you must know if your opposite is aware of your feelings and you are aware of theirs as well. Being on the same page is a key factor when it comes to being in a relationship or dating and without that aspect being in the stage of the unknown can be an everlasting journey.

 

No one likes feeling confused and lost which is why a lot of times a person can easily grow frustrated when they want to move forward and something or someone is holding them back. These different stages toward dating are not always considered to be confusing and frustrating tactics because couples will use this time to build as a unit. Those who decide to take the certain path including the “in between” stage can use the tactic as an opportunity to learn more about one another, making it easier when it is time to move on to the bigger picture which can be a relationship or even marriage.

 

 

 

 

-C.Johnson

Taking the Lead

Posted on: June 22nd, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

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Men are usually looked upon for being the initiator and taking control. Whether it is a date, number exchange or an encounter toward having sex, men are constantly placed in that dominant role. So what happens if there was a twist on taking control, leaving roles to be reversed. Men, If women began taking the lead would you be as receptive or would you feel out of place?

 

 

As a female when you are interested in a man and want to go out on a date, more than likely you are waiting for him to make that step to ask you out. Even if a woman gives a hint as to what she wants, the man will more than likely be looked to take the initiating role. With changing times comes slight role reversals as well leaving women to take different steps with being the initiator. A lot of times it is stereotyped that men are not always serious when it comes to dating or going after commitment, it takes them a little more time than the average woman. For women, knowing what they want is the fire under the burner which will press them to go after what it is that they want. Now most time a woman will not chase a man down but if it is something she wants and he is not moving at a decent pace, she may have a way of altering that.

 

 

Some women are very bold and love taking that first step by making the first move. Just like men, women know exactly what they want and  at times are just as bold with their approach. Men, let’s explore this a little.. Would it catch you off guard or would you be intimidated if a woman decides it is time for her to take control and would you accept the reversal of roles?

 

 

 

 

 

-C.Johnson

Still Acting Single

Posted on: June 20th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

relationship & single

 

A relationship is a commitment and bond shared between two people who more than likely love each other. Rather it is new love or something that is seasoned, it is a connection fulfilled by your significant other.

 

 

Though relationships are filled with a lot of good times there are challenges and trials that exist when being involved in one. With the good and the bad, one of the challenges a relationship may face is the idea of taking action when the negative fixations begin to create a problem.

 

 

Among one of the negative outbursts in a relationship, is the idea of being in one but still acting single. Believe it or not, statistics have shown an increased number in relationships going downhill because of this tactic.  Usually this will occur if one of the individuals involved in the relationship were playing two sides of the fence. At times it appears that temptation and trouble find you at a quicker rate when you are involved with someone leaving something as simple as a flirtatious conversation or a number exchange to put a damper between you and your significant other.

 

 

 

 

The bottom line is, if a person is acting single then they should really be single but if you are in a relationship the focus should be on you and your mate.

 

 

 

 

-C.Johnson

The Games We Play, The Plan We Make

Posted on: June 18th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

dating for fun

 

Dating can be one of the most fulfilling moments toward building a relationship or it can be a constant game full of confusion, frustration and uncertainty.  Dating has its balance but at times it is hard to find a complete consensus within the different phases of the act.  Among the idea of dating lies the question of why do people date?

 

In most cases people date with the high expectancy of pursuing a relationship  but unfortunately there are some who date without a purpose and treat the matter as a game. Treating this action like a game can not only cause emotional damage, confusion and dismay but it leaves false pretenses in the mindset of a person. This is why some people refuse to date and others tend to date even more because they want to be sure of what they are getting themselves involved in. If you are a person looking for a serious relationship or commitment, dating a little more is not out of the norm because not everyone is in the dating pool for that reason. For those who seek the fun and enjoy the rush of dating, they run or flee from the idea of serious commitments or moving to the next level since they enjoy the idea of being single and able to mingle.

 

 

The question of dating for the progression of the future has become a debating topic because of the different aspects/approaches toward dating.

 

 

Just as other opposites, dating seriously vs. dating for fun has the pros and cons for each, which end of the line do you fall on?

 

 

 

 

-C.Johnson