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Stop! Before You End the Relationship, Ask…

Posted on: March 5th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Before you end a relationship with someone, STOP! Ask yourself these questions first to make sure you’re thinking about it clearly and completely. I know sometimes you have to believe that gut feeling you have but there is also no harm in taking the time to think about something 100%!

 

Here are a few questions you should ask yourself (or you could even diaglogue with someone you trust as well) before you end a relationship.

 

1) Does my partner abuse me, physically and/or emotionally? If the answer is “yes”, then get out of the relationship. Any abuse in any relationship is not worth it, no matter how many times the abuser apologizes and swears that he or she will never do it again.
2) Do I wish that things/problems/issues could be worked out? If you have some doubts or any thoughts that you want to stay in this relationship, then maybe the solution is not to end  the relationship but to find other solutions instead. Maybe if there are some key problems, you can try to solve them with your problems. If it still does not end up well, at least you know that you gave it your all.
3) Do I truly communicate? Communication is so important in a relationship. Truly listening to your partner can actually be harder than you think. You have to focus on what they are saying and understand their opinions/thoughts/feelings. Sometimes your mind may wander off to what your response should be but you really have to focus your attention on what your partner is saying to effectively communicate. For a healthy relationship, the couple needs to learn how to listen and speak to each other in an effective way.
4) Have I talked to my partner about the problems in our relationship? Sometimes people would rather avoid the problems instead of communicating and compromising about it. Couples end up fighting over the most trivial and little things because of the build-up and frustration from the underlying and unresolved issues.
5) Has our trust in each other changed? Anything can happen. A possible scenario is that maybe your partner cheated on you. That can lead to trust issues and sometimes the cheated on person just cannot trust the other again. Both people in the relationship have to be willing to work together to build the trust between them again.
6) Are you able to forgive each other? Holding grudges may seem like it’ll be helpful to you in the moment but they are nothing more than destructive. If your partner is unable to forgive you for something and keeps bringing it up to hoard over you, then that relationship is not going to keep going.

 

 

Hopefully these questions will have opened your mind and/or helped you. I know this has broadened my mind. Think before you act!

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Did You Know?!

Posted on: February 20th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

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I just wanted to share a few interesting facts about dating and relationships today! Some shocked me, some I already knew, and some were just a little bit weird….

1. Did you know speed dating was invented by a rabbi? In Los Angeles in 1999, it was created, based on a Jewish tradition of chaperoned gatherings of young Jewish singles. So if you’ve been speed dating, thank the rabbis.
2. 1 in 3 teenagers have been through violence in a dating relationship. Sadly, I’m not too shocked by this which is horrible. I have not personally experienced this but I have friends that have. It is the worst.
3. It takes between 12 to 14 dates on average, before a couple will exchange house keys. It kind of sounds like a lot of dates but I kind of think that’s moving a bit too fast…
4. On free dating sites, there are at least 10% of new accounts that are actually scammers. Not surprising… that’s what you get when you don’t offer background checks!
5. The third week of September is declared National Singles Week in the United States. Nice to know that there’s an official week designated for singles..
6. Dating specialists actually suggest that people should wait until the third date with someone to cook someone dinner at home. Kind of surprising to me because why not earlier?
7. Over 50% of all single people in America have not had a date in more than 2 years. 2 YEARS! Don’t be afraid to get out there!

I’ll reveal some more interesting facts sometime in the future… but did some facts shock you as well? Surprised? Me too…

Love quotes discussed, #2

Posted on: December 26th, 2012 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

“Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should never part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion.” – Louis de Bernieres, “Captain Corelli’s Mandolin”

I think this is a beautiful quote. Do you think that this is true- that this is what love is? It takes a hold of you to never let go. It’s the madness that you love and hate at the same time that slowly takes over you but you can’t and don’t want to stop it.

I love the part where it tells you that “you have to make a decision”. You have to decide if “your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should never part”. I find this so true and it speaks to me because you really do have to make a decision if you should let yourself go and fall completely. I feel like you shouldn’t feel afraid to let your guard down and let that special someone in. You may be scarred with previous relationship problems but this does not mean that you will be hurt the next time someone new comes along. They may just be the one.

Even though I think that love actually is “breathlessness… excitement… not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion”, it is not only that. It really involves looking deep into your soul and letting yourself go. Because you’re worth it!

Meeting the parents!

Posted on: December 22nd, 2012 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Was it horrifying? Was it easy? For those who have met your significant other’s parents, let us know!

From my personal experience, my family already knew one of my ex-boyfriend’s parents because we had been family friends. So check “meeting his parents” off that list! However, there was another ex-boyfriend when it was awkward meeting his parents… the “being in his house alone not doing anything but bumping into them” kind of awkward. The most recent ex-boyfriend I’ve had though, I met his parents but it wasn’t very planned out. We were coming back from an outing with friends and decided to stop by his house so he could pick something up. I was a bit nervous and worried but his parents were so nice and welcoming. It was easy to be around them and not awkward at all. They really made an effort to make me feel at ease and I really appreciated that. I honestly will probably send them a Christmas card thanking them for everything they did for me in the time period when I was still with their son, haha. They were that welcoming!

Tips and tricks from my experience:
1) be nice
2) compliment their home/son or daughter whom you are dating
3) be polite
4) engage in conversation
5) be yourself!

Good luck if any of you are meeting your mate’s parents anytime soon! Does anyone else have any tips or tricks of their own?

Meeting someone online?

Posted on: December 21st, 2012 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Would you take a chance to meet someone online? Have you ever done that? Took a chance on someone that was a complete stranger at first but then decided to go for it and the relationship blossomed into something amazing? If you haven’t done it, would you?

Online dating is hard for some people. I honestly have never tried it and who knows, maybe in the future I will. For now, I’m okay but I have friends that have tried it and it’s worked. Other than the horror stories that I’ve also heard from other people, it’s still something to try that could possibly work for you!

Some tips and tricks from me would be:
1)be smart and be safe
2) be open-minded
3) don’t give out any personal security information
4) meet in a public place (especially if you have never met him before- anyone can send you any pictures of somebody but it may be fake)
5) have fun! :)

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On a more serious note, more people than I thought have tried online dating. I’ve heard that the free websites are less successful because they have people that are looking for a hook-up rather than a real connection. However, those that cost money, costs an arm and a leg just for one or a few dates… where’s the line to be drawn? Kudos to you if you are willing to pay and pay thousands for one date that may or may not turn out to be the love of your life. However, wouldn’t you like a chance to go somewhere that will give you more than one option and costs less than the other websites? I would… just saying.

Love quotes discussed, #1

Posted on: December 15th, 2012 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 7 Comments

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have you… The one who turns to his friends and says, ‘That’s her.’”

Have you seen this online before? I’ve definitely seen it a few times. It is a cute quote, no denying that. It portrays a stereotypical view of a perfect man. Do you believe that this man from the quote exists? Is it even possible?

My opinion is that there are men out there somewhere in this vast world that embody this description. There are men who will love you intensely, who will call you beautiful and who would call you back instead of letting you be angry by yourself. He will do activities that you want to do and will compromise with you. He’ll reassure you that you look beautiful with or without makeup and tells you that he loves you every single day.

Some people do not need all of this but some of it. Some people will probably deny this kind of man at all because every single person is different so of course attraction, needs and wants will differ for every person as well. This quote attracted me because even though it may not be the type of man that every woman wants, it still emphasizes the point that as long as your dream man (or woman!) loves you with all his or her heart and treats you right, you still want your dream significant other. I believe that there is someone for everyone in the world. You just have to wait for that moment when you will know that that person is it.

This is only my opinion of course. What do you think?

What are some turn-offs and turn-ons of pursuing a possible relationship with someone?

Posted on: December 15th, 2012 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 185 Comments

First of all, FeaturedDate would like to extend our heartfelt condolences to the victimes and families of the Sandy Hook Elementary shooting in Newtown, Connecticut. Our prayers go out to each and every person who has been affected by the tragedy.

I know some people are picky about what type of person they want to get involved with. There’s someone looking for a quick, no strings attached hookup. There’s another person who wants to have a boyfriend but not even trying to look ahead to the distant future. Then there’s another person who wants to find true love and can’t wait to start thinking about the future, what house to live in, and how many children to have.

What are some turn-ons and turn-offs that you have from approaching somebody? Looking online, some top female turn-ons* top female turn-ons are: 1) a man who can make you feel like a woman (respect is a big turn-on- a man who can respect a woman and appreciate her for who she is), 2) a man who is not afraid to take charge (mental, physical or spiritual strength), 3) a successful man (needs to be able to support himself and his family; ambitious, passionate and confident!), 4) a man with a brain, a sense of humor and can hold a conversation (smart, funny, intellectually challenging!). Some top male turn-ons** are: 1) women who leave something to the imagination (women who maintain a certain degree class are more attractive than women who bare and share everything), 2) has a strong sense of self-esteem (women who can think for herself, believe in herself and has the confidence to speak her mind), 3) loves her body (confidence! Men love a woman who appreciate what she has and isn’t afraid to show it. Embrace your body!), and 4) independent women (self-sufficient, can have fun, not needy. You can live your own life and share with your man!).

Be confident, be smart. Be able to laugh at yourself! Love yourself because you are who you are meant to be. Remember that you do not need someone to feel completed, but you want someone who will love you for who you are and only make life better.

*For more top female turn-ons, visit: http://socyberty.com/sexuality/top-10-female-turn-ons/
**For more top male turn-ons, visit: http://www.articlesbase.com/advice-articles/top-10-male-turn-ons-77.html