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25 days left until Valentine's Day!

Posted on: January 22nd, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

In honor of the days left before Valentine’s Day, our matchmaker, Romella Battle, will be putting up a lesson for each day remaining.

25 Days left until Valentine’s Day, to attracting your ideal mate! A lesson for each day.
Lesson 2, Be clear about what you want:  People enter relationships for a number of varying reasons. One person’s objective may be to meet their soul mate and another may be focused on the ultimate goal of initiating a sexual encounter. Failure to recognize and understand each other’s motives can often lead people to getting into a relationship that is based on very different needs and wants, which ultimately causes relationships to fail. Leaving behind clear lessons to remember, with the lingering feelings of hurt, pain, anger and regret along with thoughts that you have wasted your time.
Don’t misunderstand me: meeting people, flirting and dating is tremendously exciting and is an essential and wonderful part of life, but when the chemistry is flowing, that passion can sometimes overpower our reasoning and decisions in determining whether this person is the truly all that they appear to be. As abrupt as it may seem, it is imperative that you make it your first objective to make sure a possible potential-mate of interest understands what you want and need; Whether it relates to sex, love, passion or friendship. Don’t be afraid to lay it out on the table; Why? Your love life is not a game, don’t use your poker face in the beginning and hold back your best hand. Because ultimately the joke may be on you!
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New Year’s Resolutions

Posted on: January 4th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 18 Comments

Are any of you planning on making some New Year’s resolutions that have
to do with finding a possible new significant other? No shame, I’m right there
with you! If you do usually make some resolutions, do you end up keeping them?
Not going to lie, it’s hard to absolutely stick to something.

To help you, here are some resolutions that you can maybe even use as your own!

**Disclaimer: I found these off an article and the link is below.
1) Smile and say “hi” more often (Sometimes it’s hard to say hello to a
complete stranger, especially the one stranger that makes your heart beat
faster. Make that effort to not lose eye contact and say a simple hello. That
might make the difference in him wanting to talk to you and may even result in
a future date!)
2) Give your dates a chance. (Sometimes the first date with someone may turn
out horribly. Maybe the other person is more nervous than you! Take two dates
before you make a decision because it may turn out that the person is the right
person for you.)
3) Set relationship boundaries (Set boundaries for people who drain your time
and energy because relationships are give and take- not a give and give, or a
take and take. You need your own time and energy for yourself to be happy!)
4) Create your own dating rules (I totally agree with this! Even though society
has set rules about women and men just starting out in relationships, you have
to trust your own gut and instincts. You call them if you want to, don’t just
wait around for him or her to call you! You do what you want.)

Instead of setting some resolutions for you that may be considered a big goal
at first, set some small ones. Instead of telling yourself that you will find
the one for you in the next year, tell yourself that you will start being more
outgoing when you go out with friends. Go out of the way to strike up a small
conversation with that person you find attractive wherever you are. By doing
small things like that, it will build you up in self-confidence to take the
bigger step to date serious contenders that could possibly become your future
mate.

Good luck and have fun! :)

**Article from above: http://dating.about.com/od/winterholidays/tp/newyearsresolutionsforsingles.htm