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Still Acting Single

Posted on: June 20th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

relationship & single

 

A relationship is a commitment and bond shared between two people who more than likely love each other. Rather it is new love or something that is seasoned, it is a connection fulfilled by your significant other.

 

 

Though relationships are filled with a lot of good times there are challenges and trials that exist when being involved in one. With the good and the bad, one of the challenges a relationship may face is the idea of taking action when the negative fixations begin to create a problem.

 

 

Among one of the negative outbursts in a relationship, is the idea of being in one but still acting single. Believe it or not, statistics have shown an increased number in relationships going downhill because of this tactic.  Usually this will occur if one of the individuals involved in the relationship were playing two sides of the fence. At times it appears that temptation and trouble find you at a quicker rate when you are involved with someone leaving something as simple as a flirtatious conversation or a number exchange to put a damper between you and your significant other.

 

 

 

 

The bottom line is, if a person is acting single then they should really be single but if you are in a relationship the focus should be on you and your mate.

 

 

 

 

-C.Johnson

The Games We Play, The Plan We Make

Posted on: June 18th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

dating for fun

 

Dating can be one of the most fulfilling moments toward building a relationship or it can be a constant game full of confusion, frustration and uncertainty.  Dating has its balance but at times it is hard to find a complete consensus within the different phases of the act.  Among the idea of dating lies the question of why do people date?

 

In most cases people date with the high expectancy of pursuing a relationship  but unfortunately there are some who date without a purpose and treat the matter as a game. Treating this action like a game can not only cause emotional damage, confusion and dismay but it leaves false pretenses in the mindset of a person. This is why some people refuse to date and others tend to date even more because they want to be sure of what they are getting themselves involved in. If you are a person looking for a serious relationship or commitment, dating a little more is not out of the norm because not everyone is in the dating pool for that reason. For those who seek the fun and enjoy the rush of dating, they run or flee from the idea of serious commitments or moving to the next level since they enjoy the idea of being single and able to mingle.

 

 

The question of dating for the progression of the future has become a debating topic because of the different aspects/approaches toward dating.

 

 

Just as other opposites, dating seriously vs. dating for fun has the pros and cons for each, which end of the line do you fall on?

 

 

 

 

-C.Johnson

Real or Not

Posted on: June 15th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

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Though it may seem shallow at times, appearance can be the making or breaking point when looking for a mate. When a person is being judged solely on their looks, makes it a little more difficult for single men and women to find a mate.

 

For men, especially those of ethnic background, it is commonly found that these men are quick to say or speak about a cultured woman, rather it is her hair, the way she dresses or her upkeep. Most of the time the focus is channeled to her hair. Women who invest in different types of hairstyles including highlights, dying, extensions or relaxed hair, is all in an effort to please not only themselves but the society around them.

 

At times it may be very challenging not to give in but women should try to stop competing with the next woman, remember being a woman is beautiful so embrace that.
Men, yes standards are set for a reason but try not to dismiss a woman because her hair isn’t just how you like it or her figure is not to your liking; women are emotional and fragile, keep that in mind.

 

Unfortunately there will always be a complaint about something because no one is perfect yet many of us strive to be that way and look the “part.”

 

 

 

-C.Johnson

What is Love?

Posted on: June 13th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

hold tight 

 

According to about.com the definition of dating is the object of two people getting to know each other on different levels including romance. Clearly if you are dating someone it implies you are interested in more than just a friendship or a casual relationship. You are aiming to learn any and every thing about that person because there is an intention to progress as a unit instead of one. Dating is looked upon as a positive reflection but is it something that can be abused? 

  

 

New and profound love can be so refreshing and fulfilling that a person can appear to be stuck in the clouds. Along with the idea of love being so fresh and new, comes the object of affection; since the aspects of dating or being in a relationship are fresh and innovative. This is the stage where the desire or want to constantly be around a person is at an all time high.
Love can place people in such a positive aura leading them to express their feelings and emotions at all causes, even in the public eye. When love hits the air, people will know it and may even see it. Rather it’s a kiss on the cheek, a bouquet of flowers, a surprise get-a-way or romantic evening, the expression of feelings can run really deep.

 

 

Within these deep feelings, new and profound love will  seem to be one of the things a person will think about. Rather it’s your dream girl or guy, whenever you’re around them, the expression of feelings is clear in sight.

 

 

 

-C.Johnson

Listen to the Heart or Follow the Mind

Posted on: June 12th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

How many times do you hear, “follow your heart and not your mind?” it is one of the most common concepts when it comes to dating, relationships or love in general. The heart vs. the mind is one of the most difficult battles you may find within yourself and one of the most difficult of situations when it comes to love.

 

When it comes to the heart, one of the major drives or factors  are from the emotional aspect. Emotions can be known to make or break a personal outlook of an important individual because it’s the expression of how you feel; rather good or bad, emotions tell it all. Some people can be more in tune with their feelings than others, making it very easy for them to use the heart when evaluating their feelings for someone. Though emotions are apart of the main drive of a person, they can also work against you at times. With feelings or emotions, the ability to make a person vulnerable or out of the usual  comfort zone is not a hard concept to obtain which can make things difficult when it comes to a relationship or dating. Being vulnerable and in the unknown can lead a person to confusion, frustration with the idea of waiting on the next level or next step if any. This is when confusion may begin to set in and leads a person to look at the mind for advice or what to do next.

 

Certain things begin to shift once the object of the mind is placed in the picture. The mind itself  is known to be more of the blunt and upfront aspect for decisions. As a shield and protector of the emotions, the mind will let a person know when enough is enough and could care less how much an individual may love a person or care for them. If the mind receives a glimpse or slight idea that you are not receiving the treatment it feels you deserves, there is no problem for the mind to shut out the emotional concept; once a mind is made up it can be difficult to change. Even as a protector, it can also play tricks, leading the person to believe in something that may not completely be what’s expected. This is why many people say expect the unexpected because at times when listening to the mind over thinking or not thinking thoroughly can occur.

 

As the idea of dating or being in a relationship approaches finding balance between the emotional point and the will of a strong mind is the best way to sort through the overall journey as a whole. In a relationship or in the object of love, these two strong accessories will battle at times but it’s up to you to discover which side you will listen to.

 

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-C.Johmson

True Love can be Hard to Come By

Posted on: June 6th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Neglect

 

Have you ever asked yourself why people search high and low for the dedicated, genuine, long term kind of love? For those who are looking for a long term commitment and relationship, dating is only a step within the process of finding the person who compliments them. No one really wants to spend their life dating without progress being made; the difference between treating dating as a game and a serious notion.

 

Once the idea and object of dating is taking seriously, love can be found but it can also slip out of your hands before you know it. On occasion, when a person finds the specific kind of love they’re looking for, why does it seem to slip away too easy? Actions like this may occur if a couple is together for a while and the excitement or passion that once burned deeply in the relationship , is not as strong as it once was. The relationship filled with strong will and fight for love seems more like a battlefield between two people disputing over different emotions, opinions and values; failure within a relationship.

 

As a relationship turns to turmoil more than likely it is the lack of working together as one or an uproar of neglect. Neglect can be one of the most poisonous objects to hit a relationship because it can happen without a person realizing it. Studies have shown high levels of neglect within married couples which leads to higher divorce rates. Most of the time neglect is inflicted by the male figure or the least emotional person within the relationship and sometimes the person does not even realize what they are doing until it is too late. This is why it’s not only important to solidify your love for one another but also being cognizant of the actions taking place throughout the relationship is key.

 

For some, finding a good thing in their mate can be a challenge and time consuming, so why neglect and treat them poorly?

 

 

 

-C.Johnson

Beautiful No Matter What!

Posted on: March 9th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

First of all, happy international women’s day! (Even though women should be celebrated everyday..)

 

Self-image… sometimes when someone looks in the mirror, he or she sees a completely different image than in reality. Some people are never satisfied with how their body looks and are self-conscious. I can honestly say that sometimes I am unhappy with my body but I am so grateful for my amazing friends who help me and realize that I am beautiful no matter what. I dance at least 3 times a week and I don’t gorge on food… I’ve recently given up eating so much meat/eating meat at all and I would call myself healthy. You definitely cannot end up having a healthy body in a few days but you can start RIGHT NOW!

 

No matter what you may think of your body, you should realize that you are a beautiful and amazing person no matter what. If you are! It’s extremely hard for some people to realize that but reminders every so often doesn’t hurt either. If you are with someone who doesn’t realize that or let you know that he or she thinks you are beautiful/amazing/great sometimes, then let me tell you that you DESERVE BETTER. You deserve someone who will make you feel beautiful, even with no makeup or hair products, at any time of day. Don’t settle for less!

 

Just remember that you are beautiful, an amazing person and be proud of who you are! love