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Stop! Before You End the Relationship, Ask…

Posted on: March 5th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Before you end a relationship with someone, STOP! Ask yourself these questions first to make sure you’re thinking about it clearly and completely. I know sometimes you have to believe that gut feeling you have but there is also no harm in taking the time to think about something 100%!

 

Here are a few questions you should ask yourself (or you could even diaglogue with someone you trust as well) before you end a relationship.

 

1) Does my partner abuse me, physically and/or emotionally? If the answer is “yes”, then get out of the relationship. Any abuse in any relationship is not worth it, no matter how many times the abuser apologizes and swears that he or she will never do it again.
2) Do I wish that things/problems/issues could be worked out? If you have some doubts or any thoughts that you want to stay in this relationship, then maybe the solution is not to end  the relationship but to find other solutions instead. Maybe if there are some key problems, you can try to solve them with your problems. If it still does not end up well, at least you know that you gave it your all.
3) Do I truly communicate? Communication is so important in a relationship. Truly listening to your partner can actually be harder than you think. You have to focus on what they are saying and understand their opinions/thoughts/feelings. Sometimes your mind may wander off to what your response should be but you really have to focus your attention on what your partner is saying to effectively communicate. For a healthy relationship, the couple needs to learn how to listen and speak to each other in an effective way.
4) Have I talked to my partner about the problems in our relationship? Sometimes people would rather avoid the problems instead of communicating and compromising about it. Couples end up fighting over the most trivial and little things because of the build-up and frustration from the underlying and unresolved issues.
5) Has our trust in each other changed? Anything can happen. A possible scenario is that maybe your partner cheated on you. That can lead to trust issues and sometimes the cheated on person just cannot trust the other again. Both people in the relationship have to be willing to work together to build the trust between them again.
6) Are you able to forgive each other? Holding grudges may seem like it’ll be helpful to you in the moment but they are nothing more than destructive. If your partner is unable to forgive you for something and keeps bringing it up to hoard over you, then that relationship is not going to keep going.

 

 

Hopefully these questions will have opened your mind and/or helped you. I know this has broadened my mind. Think before you act!

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Identify Your Ideal Partner

Posted on: January 31st, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

With only 15 days left with Valentine’s Day approaching…

Lesson 12: Identify your ideal partner: Admit it, we all have our own idea of “Prince Charming”. However, it is highly unlikely that you will find your version of Prince Charming. Create an image of your life with your ideal mate by thinking about the major areas in your life that should be important for you both. How do you want your ideal match to express himself/herself in each area? Be hopeful but also be realistic! Give each new person you meet or date a completely blank slate and a chance. Listen and observe. Have an open mind and an open heart and you may possibly find the man of your dreams!

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Rejuvenate your relationship!

Posted on: December 19th, 2012 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 10 Comments

Sometimes couples reach that point in a relationship where the “honeymoon” phase is over. They then maybe reach a point of complacency which sometimes there is less effort put in by either one or both partners. This may create a break in the relationship which could even result in the end of the relationship. I can personally attest that I have felt that complacency in my own relationships and it definitely takes effort from both partners to continue building that relationship.

So how do you rejuvenate your relationship that may be slowly settling into
complacency? Some tips are:
1) prioritize your relationship (don’t take your partner for granted even if
you are very comfortable with each other. Show effort!)
2) communicate and listen to each other (one of the most important things of a relationship!)
3) remember that sometimes the little things matter the most (small tokens of
appreciation cost nothing but mean the world!)
4) spend some time apart (don’t get me wrong, spending regular time together is
important and essential BUT it can be very effective to spend some time apart-
allow yourself to miss each other… excessive togetherness alienates your other
relationships in your life.)

Don’t settle for complacency! Be aware and be there for your partner. It may require
more work and effort from both of you but if your relationship and partner are worth
it for you, it will grow even stronger and better in the future.

**Here’s an article I got my tips from: http://www.ehow.com/how_8430764_rejuvenate-love.html.

Love quotes discussed, #1

Posted on: December 15th, 2012 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 7 Comments

“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep… wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you’re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have you… The one who turns to his friends and says, ‘That’s her.’”

Have you seen this online before? I’ve definitely seen it a few times. It is a cute quote, no denying that. It portrays a stereotypical view of a perfect man. Do you believe that this man from the quote exists? Is it even possible?

My opinion is that there are men out there somewhere in this vast world that embody this description. There are men who will love you intensely, who will call you beautiful and who would call you back instead of letting you be angry by yourself. He will do activities that you want to do and will compromise with you. He’ll reassure you that you look beautiful with or without makeup and tells you that he loves you every single day.

Some people do not need all of this but some of it. Some people will probably deny this kind of man at all because every single person is different so of course attraction, needs and wants will differ for every person as well. This quote attracted me because even though it may not be the type of man that every woman wants, it still emphasizes the point that as long as your dream man (or woman!) loves you with all his or her heart and treats you right, you still want your dream significant other. I believe that there is someone for everyone in the world. You just have to wait for that moment when you will know that that person is it.

This is only my opinion of course. What do you think?