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Do You Want to Have Your Cake and Eat It Too?

Posted on: May 8th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 26 Comments

If a man tells a woman he only wants to be friends, why will he still show interest insinuating that he wants to be something more? Unfortunately this is a very common tactic not only used by men but women as well.


A lot of people want to have their cake and eat it too but as most of us know, it is very hard to do this. Someone will always benefit while the other person involved is losing out on something they really want. As you have seen in movies such as “No Strings Attached” and “Friends with Benefits,” once a friendship turns physical, emotions get involved and things become complicated.


Though men are looked upon as being physical beings, the idea of being physical with “your friend” still complicates the situation. Men may be physical but never like when things are turned around on them. Being physical is a man’s weakness in this type of situation. From a male’s perspective, if his female friend whom he has been dealing with physically, grows annoyed and decides to walk away from the situation to be in a real relationship, the levels of jealousy will gradually grow. The comfort level that he once had with her will no longer exist and without a comfort level, what will he have to go back to; not a friendship.


For women the trouble is in the emotional aspect. She treats you as if you were her boyfriend, does all the things a girlfriend would do but instead of stopping her, you continue to reap from the benefits. When she questions you about your status or what’s going on between you two, you hit her with the same line, “we’re just friends.”  For women, since they are emotional, when they love or care for someone they usually give their all. Once her emotions are tainted with you, being a friend has gone out the window and though she may say “you’re still friends,” the friendship will not be the same.


Less than or More than


So ask yourself, is it less than a relationship or more than a friendship? And if you’re still questioning yourself, it may be time to walk away.



Have no idea where to have your first date? We do!

Posted on: February 2nd, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

If you have just asked someone out for a first date, and have no idea where to go or what to do, READ THIS! Here are some top ranked places where you should take single women on a first date**.

To make a first date memorable, make it unique. Be fun and creative and there’s no doubt that the woman will remember you and your date… hopefully in a positive way!

1) Amusement parks: First, make sure the woman likes thrills and going on roller coasters! If they’re deathly afraid of heights, this date may not go so well… but that’s a chance to reassure your date that you will be there for them. For the women who do enjoy going on fast roller coasters and amusement parks, it’s a perfect opportunity to have fun with your date! If you try to win her a prize at a game, that’s a cute bonus as well.
2) Dinner at your place: This could go either way. Some men like to invite their date over to their house for a romantic and delicious homemade dinner. If you do this, make sure you are a gentleman to the woman and wait on her hand and foot. Make sure she feels special!
3) Picnic: This may sound cliche but some women may enjoy this. Make sure you choose an area that is not dirty, possibly not too grassy as well (some people have allergies!), and not too noisy or people-filled so there won’t be people trampling on your blanket or area. Bring food and refreshment that won’t be too messy to eat, a blanket to sit on and possible entertainment (small speakers to play music on is one suggestion). This is a good way to get to know your date while enjoying the great weather outside. You can even create your own fun little games out of something like people watching.
4) Moonlight strolls: Another idea that may sound cliche but it definitely melts hearts. If the weather is clear outside with a bright full moon, head towards a lake or a seashore. Take off your shoes and walk along the shore with your date. This is also a good way to get to know someone by talking about anything and/or everything! Just enjoy yourself and the good company.
5) Zoo: This is a popular date idea. It may go either way, depending on the woman. If the woman does not like animals, that’s a sure bet not to take her to the zoo on the first date. Besides that, walking around the zoo and enjoying the animals’ exhibits together should be fun. You can get to know each other and learn new things together!

I got the ideas from this article. For more ideas, read it here: http://ezinearticles.com/?The-Top-10-Places-to-Take-Single-Women-on-a-First-Date&id=107457.