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Don't Give Up!!

Posted on: February 14th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 7 Comments

Happy Valentine’s Day Eve! :)

Whether or not you celebrate with a significant other, remember to have fun. If you’re currently single, gather your closest girlfriends and plan something to do together anyways! Girls’ night in or go out on the town. Remember that you love yourself and that you are surrounded with those who love you!

I have one lesson for you before V-Day strikes!

Lesson 20: Giving up and giving in: When you feel like giving up or giving in, these are signs that you may feel powerless, frustrated, undeserving or unheard by your mate. This does not mean that you should settle for less! When you settle for less, this means that your potential mate does not see that your thoughts, needs, attitudes, beliefs and wants are legitimate or necessary.

Compromise and negotiating are essential to any relationship, especially when you and/or your partner may both be stubborn in your own beliefs. However, compromise and negotiating can only happen when both persons in the relationship honor and respect each other’s thoughts, values, needs and beliefs with each person’s hopes, dreams and wants.

Don’t settle for less!!

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No Limits!

Posted on: February 12th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 8 Comments

Here’s a piece of advice for those who are single and dating: been single and dating, or have just become single and want to start dating when it’s the right time.

During your process of dating, there is not a limit of how many people you are dating or should be dating. There is no commitment until you both have decided you want to be in a relationship! You should be having fun and dating more than one person. Some dates may just be for fun while other possible dates may be for looking at a possible mate.

If there has been no limit set for you and a possible partner, then know that you are not limited and feel free to date whoever you want. Dating should be a fun time and a period in your life where you explore different situations and network with people! There is no rush to get into a relationship with the first man or woman you end up dating. However, when you and a man or woman have successfully finished the “getting-to-know-each-other” period, set that limit if you both only want to date one another.

Get out there! Dive in head-first. Keep an open mind and push yourself! Have fun and enjoy your carefree dating phase!

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Love quotes discussed, #4

Posted on: February 9th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 10 Comments

“Love is like an earthquake- unpredictable, a little scary, but when the hard part is over, you realize how lucky you truly are.”

True. I think that in relationships, you will always have some arguments or hard times but if you just stay honest and open-minded because you really do love someone, the good times will overpower the bad times. Trust me, you will be glad that you persevered through them. (Unless he or she treats you badly and not at all how you deserve, then drop him or her. You deserve someone who loves you and treats you right!)

Just remember that even if you do get into a bad argument, there is a reason why you are with that person. For whatever reason that is (love… etc.), you always have to keep in your mind that you cannot just give up and sometimes you may have to compromise your opinions because you may want to be right all the time but that may be giving off a horrible vibe to the other person. Just keep pushing and remember that saying sorry doesn’t mean that you were wrong but it means that you love them.

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Love at first sight?

Posted on: February 9th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

It’s a question that comes up often. So do you believe in love at first sight? Personally, I know some people do not believe in love at first sight, but rather attraction at first sight. There are people who do not believe in fate and destiny, there are those who acknowledge it but do not believe strongly in it and there are those who believe in it passionately.

Personally, I am one who does believe in fate, destiny and love at first sight. I’m not headstrong on it but I do believe that there is someone for everybody and that everything happens for a reason. Attraction at first sight? Definitely! Love at first sight? That’s more complicated because I feel like “love at first sight” stems from attraction at first sight.

This article that I found is called “Love at first sight, or in half a second”*. It basically talks about how quickly a person is pulled towards physical attractiveness when looking for a potential mate or when being protective of their current mate from other rivals. The article speaks about how the team found out that people are drawn towards attractive faces within the very first half-second of seeing them before even thinking about a possible mate or rival. They accomplished this finding by testing some university students, showing them pictures of either extremely attractive people or average-looking people for one second. By their reaction time, the team was able to discover that half a second is really all that is needed to decide if someone is attractive to the person or not. There are advantages and disadvantages of the study but if you want to read more, I have linked the article below!

The article definitely captured my attention since there is that popular question of if one believes in love at first sight. There’s so many different responses and explanations for their answers because there is definitely not just one correct answer.

So what do you think? Do you believe in love in first sight?

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*http://www.reuters.com/article/2007/09/18/us-beauty-attraction-idUSN1844443620070918

Sing Me A Love Song

Posted on: February 7th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

What are some of your favorite love songs? There are always the classics and there’s always new ones popping up every year as well. I have compiled a list of the following while searching “top love songs” in a search engine. As I went through the multiple results, I definitely agreed with some while having some disagreements with others.

However, having one of these songs play while having a romantic dinner (with your mate, first date, etc.) with your potential mate, will definitely set the mood. Make a playlist with some of these suggestions! With Valentine’s Day coming up, I hope these songs can help you somewhere! Play them in the car while you are driving to your destination with your date, play them at home while getting ready, during a dinner, request a song if available at a place. Utilize your resources!

  • Elvis Presley – “Love Me Tender”
  • The Beatles – “I Want to Hold Your Hand”
  • The Temptations – “My Girl”
  • Sonny & Cher – “I Got You Babe”
  • Whitney Houston – “I Will Always Love You”
  • Celine Dion – “My Heart Will Go On”
  • Alicia Keys – “No One”
  • Mariah Carey – “We Belong Together”
  • Boyz II Men – “I’ll Make Love to You”
  • Beyonce ft. Jay-Z – “Crazy In Love”
  • Etta James – “At Last”
  • Luther Vandross – “Here and Now”
  • The Bangles – “Eternal Flame”
  • Miguel – “Adorn”
  • Frank Ocean – “Thinkin’ Bout You”
  • Demi Lovato – “Give Your Heart A Break”
  • Savage Garden – “Truly, Madly, Deeply”
  • K-Ci & JoJo – “All My Life”
  • 98 Degrees – “Because Of You”
  • Brian McKnight – “Back to One”
  • John Mayer – “Your Body Is A Wonderland”
  • Stevie Wonder – “You Are the Sunshine Of My Life”
  • Rod Stewart – “Have I Told You Lately”
  • Madonna – “Crazy For You”
  • Beach Boys – “Wouldn’t It Be Nice”
  • Marvin Gaye – “Let’s Get It On”
  • Al Green – “Let’s Stay Together”
  • The Jackson 5 – “I’ll Be There”
  • George Michael/Wham! – “Careless Whisper”
  • Diana Ross & Lionel Richie – “Endless Love”
  • Alicia Keys – “Fallin’”
  • Bonnie Tyler – “Total Eclipse of the Heart”
  • Faith Hill – “Breathe”
  • N*Sync – “This I Promise You”

Of course there’s a whole bunch more, but I hope this list (some great oldies, some recent) is both familiar and new to you! Download, listen and enjoy.

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Identify Your Ideal Partner

Posted on: January 31st, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

With only 15 days left with Valentine’s Day approaching…

Lesson 12: Identify your ideal partner: Admit it, we all have our own idea of “Prince Charming”. However, it is highly unlikely that you will find your version of Prince Charming. Create an image of your life with your ideal mate by thinking about the major areas in your life that should be important for you both. How do you want your ideal match to express himself/herself in each area? Be hopeful but also be realistic! Give each new person you meet or date a completely blank slate and a chance. Listen and observe. Have an open mind and an open heart and you may possibly find the man of your dreams!

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Enjoy Life

Posted on: January 31st, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 10 Comments

16 days left until Cupid comes to strike you with love!

Lesson 11: If you have just gotten out of a relationship, are you ready to date again? If you have just gotten out of one relationship but want to start dating, make sure that you are 100% sure to start dating again. Make sure you have done the following: given yourself time to heal, taken some time for self-assessment, gotten help if you need it, and know the signs that you are ready to start dating. It’s healthy to grieve a little over a lost relationship- vent it out with friends and/or family. Don’t let feelings of loneliness or revenge make you rush into a rebound relationship. Reflect but don’t dwell on your past relationship and learn from it. Enjoy single life for a while- make plans to go out and try new things with good company. Enjoy life with your hobbies and renew your self-confidence. Make sure that you are free from relationship baggage before jumping back into the dating scene. Go at your own pace! There is no pressure on you to get right into another relationship.

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