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Power Couples… You inspire me.

Posted on: December 15th, 2017 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Pinky: “Gee, Brain, what do you want to do tonight”?

Brain: “The same thing we do every night, Pinky – try to take over the world”!pinky

For those that remember, without “pinky” there was no “brain” and vise versa.

The words “Power couples” might be a catch-phrase that sets the tone of the relationship, but it is also something that is proving to be true. Power couples do things differently, but what makes a power couple? Let’s look at some examples of those who have been wildly successful individually, as well as seem to have an unbreakable relationship bond.

Barack and Michelle Obama, Bill and Hillary Clinton, Kelly Rippa and Michael Consuelos, Will and Jada Smith and

Duane and Tisha Campbell-Martin.

Not everyone is this successful and wealthy, but then being a power couple is not only reserved for the mega wealthy and successful. Just about every crowd features at least one of these couples.

They are awesome together, and awesome people as individuals too.

They support each other completely and don’t depend on anyone for their sense of self-worth.

This couple has that something special that people can see immediately, and it lights up the world.

Lets take a look at some more of these essential keys.

They are optimistic and know they have value.

Each of them makes up for what the other might lack, and they are key confidantes.

They work hard to improve their own individuality as well as, as a pair.

Working constantly and confidently to become better connected.

They work harder to deserve one another.

A couple such as this supports each-others pursuits and ambitions completely, and are equal partners.

Both of them value equality, and will do their fair share inside the home, as well as outside the home.

For example Bill and Hillary Clinton. They support each of the others political ideologies and careers. She supported his aspirations when he was President, and he championed for her and supported her 2016 presidential run.

Power couples make time for themselves, and time to be together. They often exercise together and enjoy the same sort of sporting activities, and can spend time on their own passion projects.

When their relationship is no longer working they stick together to work it out, or know when to call it quits, and are private about it.

Evolving separate careers as well as a family together is the kind of thing that successful power couples do.

They are both already complete when they meet, equal in attitude, style, and often finance and career.

They come from every neck of the woods from the trailer park to the highest echelon of super stardom, to overcome the odds together by simply being all that they can both possibly be.

They do not sacrifice career ambitions, they compromise, and don’t need to validate one another as being worthy.

These are not glamorous appendages to a successful or powerful spouse, they are equal in everything. Will Smith said it best “If you are absent during my struggle, don’t expect to be present during my success”. This is kind of commitment is for better or for worse.

When we focus on fixing what’s wrong, we focus on the problem.

“Whatever we focus our attention on will inevitably grow.”

Instead, work together to focus on solutions, strengths and goals.

Enjoy the Journey …

PUFF, Where did you go?…..

Posted on: June 16th, 2017 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

woman diaappearing

(Warning: Motivating but real!!!)

At first, it seemed like a fairy tale. Romantic dates, long phone conversations, a beautiful ring, a gorgeous wedding, and a home you loved. He completely changed your life: new friends, new activities, new restaurants, even a new zip code. You did almost everything he suggested because it made you happy to make him happy. But now, despite your best efforts, your relationship is in trouble. You have no idea how you got so far off track and no clue how to figure out what’s best for you. You aren’t even sure who you are anymore.

Here are a few ways to find you again!!!

#1. If you’re still in the relationship, talk to your partner. If you believe that your own needs and preferences consistently take a backseat to your partner’s, your first step should be to share your concerns with him. Remember, nothing will change if you don’t voice your feelings, which your partner might not be aware of. His response will tell you a lot about the current health (and perhaps the future) of your relationship.

You may be worried that stating your position will offend your partner or drive him away. But that’s a risk you have to take for the sake of your own mental and emotional well-being. The best case scenario is, of course, that your partner makes a conscious effort to meet you halfway and invest more in your interests and priorities. If that’s not what happens, though, you may need to reconsider the relationship.

#2. Stop walking on egg shells your partner.

If you’re in a relationship, the idea of ending it can be incredibly painful. So consciously or unconsciously, you may find yourself fixating on your partner’s positive qualities and downplaying his hurtful or unhealthy behaviors. Even after the relationship has ended, you might look back with nostalgia.

But it’s important to be honest about that person’s flaws. Otherwise, you run the risk of believing that your partner is perfect and blaming all of the relationship’s problems on yourself, which can be fatal to your self-esteem.

#3. Pay attention to how you’re feeling. In our hectic, mile-a-minute, on-the-go world, many of us are so busy and preoccupied that we don’t take the time to really check in with ourselves and how we’re feeling. Too often, it takes a major event (a health scare, an anxiety attack, or “yes!”the dissolution of a relationship) to wake us up to the fact that our lives are unhealthy and off track.

That’s why it’s so important to keep your finger on the pulse of your emotions and intuition. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, get into the habit of asking yourself, How does this mesh with my values? Am I honoring myself and my goals? Am I being authentic, or am I calibrating my words and actions to please someone else? When you’re more in tune with yourself, you’ll be in a position to make small adjustments when you first notice that you’re feeling off, making it much less likely that you’ll wake up one day wondering, How did I get to this place, and what happened to my life?

#4. Making the cut. Ignoring a bad situation or a less-than-ideal reality won’t make it go away. If you’ve lost yourself in love, sooner or later you’ll have to make hard decisions like:

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Do I move out? Is this relationship officially over? Should I cut off contact? If hanging on isn’t healthy, be honest with yourself. Remember, your long-term well-being may require (and is worth!) short-term pain.

#5. Stay close to (or reconnect with) your family and friends. When you lose yourself in love, it’s common to drift away from family and friends. Maybe you’ve been focused primarily on your partner and haven’t invested much in other people, or perhaps you’ve purposefully put distance between yourself and loved ones who questioned the wisdom of your relationship. Whatever the reason, it’s time to reconnect and repair any damage that’s been done.

The people who love you and who have known you for years will keep you grounded and remind you of who you are!!!

#6. Be full of yourself–It’s all about you. date yourself

Start doing activities solo, too! Go grocery shopping, see a movie, take a walk in the park, or go to a worship service with only yourself. If you want to reclaim your life after losing yourself in love, you must learn to be confident and comfortable on your own.

OK… enough of the uplifting….food for the soul. Lets get down to the Nitty- Gritty!!!!

#7. The number (seven) in biblical terms means: completeness and perfection (both physical and spiritual). It derives much of its meaning from being tied directly to God’s creation of all things.

Now its time to …DATE LIKE YOU HAVE LOST YOUR MIND….. Become a player of the game and not subject to the game… Date the not so attractive singles, cute singles, singles with one leg, 4 eyed singles, wealthy singles, broke singles, corny singles..

Bring them on…… Remember this is a selfish act, which is all about you, not anyone else. However, you must be honest with anyone you meet, that you are just going out to have fun. NO feelings, No connection and No remorse.

The point of serial dating is not about finding a mate, but will do 3 things:

a) Kick lonely’s butt…. kick lonley butt

b) It will make you get beautified…. beauty in you

c) Makes time fly by….. time flying

You deserve this; and never fill guilty about-making it all about you.. Besides, remember God will bring you the best, so, in the meantime while your dating (HAVE FUN). If someone is the “one” he will surely reveal himself..

These tools and experiences will force you to stand on your own two feet, give you the tools to live instead of just exist, and to focus on and invest in yourself.

You are already equipped with everything you need and if you need us, we are always here, so just do!!!!

The Balance

Posted on: July 13th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

How important is the physicality in a relationship? Can it be the making or breaking point at times or is it somewhat unnoticed?

Physical intimacy is very important within a relationship. Sure it may need other aspects to aide and support the notion but let alone it is still important. For those who have been in relationships or commitments for years will explain how keeping the fire burning can be a very challenging situation at times but without it a glitch can arise within your relationship.

Most women are naturally in tune with their emotions leading them to be strong in that aspect; even thought they can be looked upon as emotional beings. This is why they look forward to the emotional bond being shared within a relationship but love to combine the emotional and the physical. Men also can be very in tuned with their emotions but are not as easily shown like those of a woman. Men are truly physical beings but a man who can combined both aspects within a relationship will truly make his lady happy.

A relationship should entail many characteristics such as commitment, loyalty, trust but don’t forget the adventure, enjoyment, excitement and keeping things feeling fresh and new those are the key things to elongating a relationship. You wouldn’t let a rose bush just shrivel and die you care for it so it can blossom and grow.

-C.Johnson

Is Age Only a Number?

Posted on: June 28th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Do you believe that love grows better with age or is it a mythical sense of thought?

Along with the list of standards, preferences are usually next in line to be evaluated when looking for a mate. A common preference when dating is age, which has been one of the main inclinations when it comes to finding that special someone. At times the differences in age can be frowned upon when it is evident, on the display and breaking the social norm of what the majority are use to. Truth be told, the factors based on age are forever changing and exalt to different perspectives when it comes to dating outside or within specific age groups.

Younger women are dating older men and older women are looking at younger men, times are forever changing. Many may not realize it but some of the time people go outside of there age group not only to try something new but to go against the grain and step outside the comfort zone is a risk a person is willing to take to find exactly what they are looking for in a person. Overall it is the individual preference in what a person likes or may even grow to love and at times it can be a result from a difference in age, style of dating and what you will do to go after what you want.

Some people believe in dating those who are more mature because they may have more to offer than someone who is young; such as experience, maturity and wisdom. When a person is on the younger side and fresh to the dating market and still experiencing the realm of dating, they are not use to or aware of a lot of things that a older person with more experience with dating is use to.

Love is an emotion that is supposed to be expressive with a positive notion to share one’s feelings not discrimination in how one may feel or who or what they prefer.

-C.Johnson

Real or Not

Posted on: June 15th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Though it may seem shallow at times, appearance can be the making or breaking point when looking for a mate. When a person is being judged solely on their looks, makes it a little more difficult for single men and women to find a mate.

For men, especially those of ethnic background, it is commonly found that these men are quick to say or speak about a cultured woman, rather it is her hair, the way she dresses or her upkeep. Most of the time the focus is channeled to her hair. Women who invest in different types of hairstyles including highlights, dying, extensions or relaxed hair, is all in an effort to please not only themselves but the society around them.

At times it may be very challenging not to give in but women should try to stop competing with the next woman, remember being a woman is beautiful so embrace that.
Men, yes standards are set for a reason but try not to dismiss a woman because her hair isn’t just how you like it or her figure is not to your liking; women are emotional and fragile, keep that in mind.

Unfortunately there will always be a complaint about something because no one is perfect yet many of us strive to be that way and look the “part.”

-C.Johnson

A Challenge to Your Intellect

Posted on: June 4th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

If a person you are considering dating is drop dead gorgeous but had no intellect would that matter. Would beauty ultimately win over brains

When dating someone, one of the key factors or first things a person may notice is the physical attributes of the individual they are interested in. It could be a pretty face, thin waist with hips and legs to match or a clean cut, tough body and well groomed man who takes the cake but is it the physical beauty the only thing sending you over the edge?

Statistics have shown that the physicality of a person has played a significant role for individuals when dating or looking for a significant other. Additional factors such as employment, goals in life, lifestyle, background, etc. are also other characteristics people look into but for many, the outer appearance still wins.

Usually a person’s outer beauty influences a portion of what people look for in their significant other but how much influence does it entail. Is it the physical attraction that plays such a important role when dating someone that people are blind-sided by their true character?

Has society become so shallow that it has influenced us to choose our partners solely based on looks? Personal self-esteem issues or the idea of not having someone look the par on your arm has become a major issue for some people. Setting standards when looking for a significant other is vital when dating but do you continuously choose beauty over the true character of a person?

-C. Johnson

What’s your sexy: Men vs. Women

Posted on: May 21st, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

What is the definition of sexy?

According to freedictionary.com, the definition of sexy is the arousing or tending to arouse, sexual desire or interest; highly appealing or interesting. To be sexually attracted to someone is evident when choosing a mate and this is because it is in human nature to do so. Every person has a niche or something unique which eventually will attract someone to them. Since sexy is such a broad term there are different meanings including personal preferences of what is sexy and what is not.

What do men find sexy? Men are initially attracted to the physical assets of a woman, what does she look like, what is she wearing and does she entail the physical attributes in what he is seeking. Now just because men may initially look for the physical attraction, does not automatically make them shallow because there are other characteristics they may find sexy such as self confidence, her presence, her scent and her demeanor. You will know when a man finds a woman sexy because he will make sure it’s known, not so much through words but through action.

For women “sexy” in a man has a different approach. Yes women are physically attracted to a man and look for his physical attributes but that is not always the initial object to be checked off the board. A woman may want to talk to you, have a conversation to see where your mind is and if the conversation tests out, you have just scored brownie points. Women look at your intellect, your approach, self- confidence or swag before purely focusing on your physical sexy but if you can hook a woman mentally, you are already sexy in her eyes.

Being sexy is different for each and every person which is another aspect making individuals unique. Only you know what you truly find sexy, embrace that and be proud because it will push you to grasp what you are looking for.

-C.Johnson