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Power Couples… You inspire me.

Posted on: December 15th, 2017 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Pinky: “Gee, Brain, what do you want to do tonight”?

Brain: “The same thing we do every night, Pinky – try to take over the world”!pinky

For those that remember, without “pinky” there was no “brain” and vise versa.

The words “Power couples” might be a catch-phrase that sets the tone of the relationship, but it is also something that is proving to be true. Power couples do things differently, but what makes a power couple? Let’s look at some examples of those who have been wildly successful individually, as well as seem to have an unbreakable relationship bond.

Barack and Michelle Obama, Bill and Hillary Clinton, Kelly Rippa and Michael Consuelos, Will and Jada Smith and

Duane and Tisha Campbell-Martin.

Not everyone is this successful and wealthy, but then being a power couple is not only reserved for the mega wealthy and successful. Just about every crowd features at least one of these couples.

They are awesome together, and awesome people as individuals too.

They support each other completely and don’t depend on anyone for their sense of self-worth.

This couple has that something special that people can see immediately, and it lights up the world.

Lets take a look at some more of these essential keys.

They are optimistic and know they have value.

Each of them makes up for what the other might lack, and they are key confidantes.

They work hard to improve their own individuality as well as, as a pair.

Working constantly and confidently to become better connected.

They work harder to deserve one another.

A couple such as this supports each-others pursuits and ambitions completely, and are equal partners.

Both of them value equality, and will do their fair share inside the home, as well as outside the home.

For example Bill and Hillary Clinton. They support each of the others political ideologies and careers. She supported his aspirations when he was President, and he championed for her and supported her 2016 presidential run.

Power couples make time for themselves, and time to be together. They often exercise together and enjoy the same sort of sporting activities, and can spend time on their own passion projects.

When their relationship is no longer working they stick together to work it out, or know when to call it quits, and are private about it.

Evolving separate careers as well as a family together is the kind of thing that successful power couples do.

They are both already complete when they meet, equal in attitude, style, and often finance and career.

They come from every neck of the woods from the trailer park to the highest echelon of super stardom, to overcome the odds together by simply being all that they can both possibly be.

They do not sacrifice career ambitions, they compromise, and don’t need to validate one another as being worthy.

These are not glamorous appendages to a successful or powerful spouse, they are equal in everything. Will Smith said it best “If you are absent during my struggle, don’t expect to be present during my success”. This is kind of commitment is for better or for worse.

When we focus on fixing what’s wrong, we focus on the problem.

“Whatever we focus our attention on will inevitably grow.”

Instead, work together to focus on solutions, strengths and goals.

Enjoy the Journey …

PUFF, Where did you go?…..

Posted on: June 16th, 2017 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

woman diaappearing

(Warning: Motivating but real!!!)

At first, it seemed like a fairy tale. Romantic dates, long phone conversations, a beautiful ring, a gorgeous wedding, and a home you loved. He completely changed your life: new friends, new activities, new restaurants, even a new zip code. You did almost everything he suggested because it made you happy to make him happy. But now, despite your best efforts, your relationship is in trouble. You have no idea how you got so far off track and no clue how to figure out what’s best for you. You aren’t even sure who you are anymore.

Here are a few ways to find you again!!!

#1. If you’re still in the relationship, talk to your partner. If you believe that your own needs and preferences consistently take a backseat to your partner’s, your first step should be to share your concerns with him. Remember, nothing will change if you don’t voice your feelings, which your partner might not be aware of. His response will tell you a lot about the current health (and perhaps the future) of your relationship.

You may be worried that stating your position will offend your partner or drive him away. But that’s a risk you have to take for the sake of your own mental and emotional well-being. The best case scenario is, of course, that your partner makes a conscious effort to meet you halfway and invest more in your interests and priorities. If that’s not what happens, though, you may need to reconsider the relationship.

#2. Stop walking on egg shells your partner.

If you’re in a relationship, the idea of ending it can be incredibly painful. So consciously or unconsciously, you may find yourself fixating on your partner’s positive qualities and downplaying his hurtful or unhealthy behaviors. Even after the relationship has ended, you might look back with nostalgia.

But it’s important to be honest about that person’s flaws. Otherwise, you run the risk of believing that your partner is perfect and blaming all of the relationship’s problems on yourself, which can be fatal to your self-esteem.

#3. Pay attention to how you’re feeling. In our hectic, mile-a-minute, on-the-go world, many of us are so busy and preoccupied that we don’t take the time to really check in with ourselves and how we’re feeling. Too often, it takes a major event (a health scare, an anxiety attack, or “yes!”the dissolution of a relationship) to wake us up to the fact that our lives are unhealthy and off track.

That’s why it’s so important to keep your finger on the pulse of your emotions and intuition. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, get into the habit of asking yourself, How does this mesh with my values? Am I honoring myself and my goals? Am I being authentic, or am I calibrating my words and actions to please someone else? When you’re more in tune with yourself, you’ll be in a position to make small adjustments when you first notice that you’re feeling off, making it much less likely that you’ll wake up one day wondering, How did I get to this place, and what happened to my life?

#4. Making the cut. Ignoring a bad situation or a less-than-ideal reality won’t make it go away. If you’ve lost yourself in love, sooner or later you’ll have to make hard decisions like:

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Do I move out? Is this relationship officially over? Should I cut off contact? If hanging on isn’t healthy, be honest with yourself. Remember, your long-term well-being may require (and is worth!) short-term pain.

#5. Stay close to (or reconnect with) your family and friends. When you lose yourself in love, it’s common to drift away from family and friends. Maybe you’ve been focused primarily on your partner and haven’t invested much in other people, or perhaps you’ve purposefully put distance between yourself and loved ones who questioned the wisdom of your relationship. Whatever the reason, it’s time to reconnect and repair any damage that’s been done.

The people who love you and who have known you for years will keep you grounded and remind you of who you are!!!

#6. Be full of yourself–It’s all about you. date yourself

Start doing activities solo, too! Go grocery shopping, see a movie, take a walk in the park, or go to a worship service with only yourself. If you want to reclaim your life after losing yourself in love, you must learn to be confident and comfortable on your own.

OK… enough of the uplifting….food for the soul. Lets get down to the Nitty- Gritty!!!!

#7. The number (seven) in biblical terms means: completeness and perfection (both physical and spiritual). It derives much of its meaning from being tied directly to God’s creation of all things.

Now its time to …DATE LIKE YOU HAVE LOST YOUR MIND….. Become a player of the game and not subject to the game… Date the not so attractive singles, cute singles, singles with one leg, 4 eyed singles, wealthy singles, broke singles, corny singles..

Bring them on…… Remember this is a selfish act, which is all about you, not anyone else. However, you must be honest with anyone you meet, that you are just going out to have fun. NO feelings, No connection and No remorse.

The point of serial dating is not about finding a mate, but will do 3 things:

a) Kick lonely’s butt…. kick lonley butt

b) It will make you get beautified…. beauty in you

c) Makes time fly by….. time flying

You deserve this; and never fill guilty about-making it all about you.. Besides, remember God will bring you the best, so, in the meantime while your dating (HAVE FUN). If someone is the “one” he will surely reveal himself..

These tools and experiences will force you to stand on your own two feet, give you the tools to live instead of just exist, and to focus on and invest in yourself.

You are already equipped with everything you need and if you need us, we are always here, so just do!!!!

Straight & Honest talk with a former exotic dancer-Now Executive and Ready to Become a Wife

Posted on: September 4th, 2014 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Uncensored Interview:

Straight & Honest talk with a former exotic dancer – now making strides as a professional executive and ready to become a wife.

How did you become a stripper?

When I turned 18, my top priority was to “grow up” and become independent as soon as possible. To me, true independence meant never having to ask my parents for money — though they were more than willing to provide it. I had small job at little store, and I got a scholarship to help with my tuition, but living in the city was not cheap for a single woman. My meager income wasn’t nearly enough to survive on, and it drove me nuts. I felt so disillusioned and trapped. Just before my 19th birthday, I saw an ad for an “amateur night” contest at a local strip club. I’d always been a pretty repressed young lady — perfect grades, respectable hobbies, never so much as a parking ticket — but something about the idea of exotic dancing captivated my imagination.

How did stripping effect your ideas about sexuality and commitment?

Stripping taught me that “chemistry” — for lack of a better word — can explode in very unlikely pairings. To this day, my strongest friendships with men fall into that gray zone between “I want to know you” and “I want to sleep with you.” Learning to feel comfortable in that zone, without having to put a label on it, was a big part of my coming-out process.

You have professional career now. How did you make the extreme transition?

Like many young people finding their way, I have worked many jobs as an assistant producer at an independent film company, got a research grant to study alternative medicine and doctor-patient relationships, earned my helicopter pilots license, read voraciously and developed a writing “voice.” Once I made the commitment to complete my undergraduate degree, I went full-throttle, taking extra courses during regular semesters and squeezing in even more credits during winter and summer school sessions. I wound up graduating with my BA at the exact same time as my high school friends — even though I’d taken a significant “detour!”

Do you regret your past?

I honestly have no regrets. Every intricate part of my past whether good or bad has made me the strong, independent, woman I am today. I have developed a distinct way of handling various personalities, a firm voice in leadership & good decision making. This has empowered me to take the appropriate actions needed on a daily basis in a crucial role, in order to strategically manage my business sector.

How do you explain your past to a potential mate?

I believe, I use the no hold punches approach to dating. If the relationship develops after a period of time and the gentleman has earned the honor of knowing my history, I have no problem with sharing. If he is the one, and we are meant to be together, then being truthful and honest about what I want & need in a relationship as well as my past would be no problem. I just look forward to meeting the man of my dreams, in the meantime, I’m just focused on preparing myself for him in every aspect of my life.

Share your thoughts?

Sex Over 40… Does it Get Greater?

Posted on: August 22nd, 2014 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Marie K. From The Bay, was asked? What is Great about sex over 40?

1. I know how to ask for it. I have given up doing the “getting warmer” noises leading to specific instructions. Similarly, at this age you can be totally honest during sex, as in, “You are joking, I can’t bend over there,” or “Whoops”.

2. In general, I say what I’m thinking in the bedroom. For example, “Do we actually have to, I am so tired? Shall we make time tomorrow instead and do it without fail?”

If you were young and impressionable you might think that this was unromantic, but it’s actually fantastic. When people talk about honesty in the relationship, this is definitely what they mean.

3. I can laugh about it when I get cramp/get stuck etc. Obviously I always laughed about it… but now there no self-doubt lurking in the background, and the mild suspicion that he might be thinking, “Yikes, she’s a bit clumsy/heavy/unfit.”

4. After the age of 40 you are just more self-possessed. This gives you the aura of a woman with hidden depths rather than a callow girl who does not yet know who she really is – which, in turn, intrigues men and makes them work harder.

5. Women get increasingly open about sex – girlfriends who have never so much as mentioned it before will ask, “Have you tried this? You really should. But not on top speed.”

6. I don’t need to analyze it. When you’re over 40 you realise sex is sex and, quite often, it is just for sex’s sake and means absolutely nothing. Just as having a couple of nights off doesn’t mean he no longer loves you.

7. Chances are that he’s roughly your age, and that means he’s: a) More experienced; b) Genuinely likes women or he would be sleeping with a 28-year-old, and c) He’s taking life a little bit slower. All of which are good for sex.

8. I don’t need to talk afterwards to feel reassured. Frequently, I’d rather not chat afterwards, and I don’t need to speak before.

9. I tend to go to bed a bit earlier so, sometimes, you can be having sex before midnight and be relatively sober. This is unheard of in your youth and throughout most of your thirties – and sex is definitely better without room spin.

10. You can be the selective-type after (40). Your options are broader. I think I’m more attractive than I was ten years ago. This may be to do with losing my insecurities, but it’s also about things that have come together in my life.

Share Your Thoughts, Does it get better after 40?