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God Is a Matchmaker

Posted on: August 10th, 2014 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Romance is one of God most unique specialties. He brought the first couple together, and He still delights in arranging marriages.


Are you ever going to get married?  Are you too picky?  What is wrong with you?” These are just a few of the many questions that single men and women are frequently asked. As a single person, you may wonder if God has forgotten about your prayerful request for the man or woman of your dreams. But don’t despair.


(God is the ultimate matchmaker). God uses people to meet needs, accomplish worthwhile tasks, and open doors of opportunity that possibly only God and the person in need know about. In faith and trust, we pray and God answers — sometimes in unexpected ways.


Speak Faith: God desires that we call those things that be not, as though they were

Once you have prepared yourself as an individual, and are firm in who your are and the qualities you possess. Then you can prepare for you mate, “by acting as if.”Acting as if means, you take on the mindset of what you wish to become and allow (or encourage) your behaviors to follow. You bypass the “what ifs” and go straight to the “what is”. If you practice long enough, your acting as if will no longer be acting when you eventually grow into your new role. Prepare yourself for being a good spouse to your soon to be husband or wife. Start practicing a few things that you would do in a marriage, such as cooking for family, planning out your future, budgeting your finances and listening & communicating with the opposite sex.


Being single and marriage should both be viewed as seasons of life. Special lessons and tools that God uses to build the character in each person. One stage of life is not better than the other. When your single, waiting for God does not mean being invisible. “Listen to what God is telling you”. You should be always be prepared, by enjoying going out to events and being open to meeting new people, as you never know who god is bringing around you.


Remember..Faith Without Works Is Dead James 2:14-26 New King James Version (NKJV) .


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No Money, No Honey: Unemployed Men Are Deal Breakers for Some Women

Posted on: August 7th, 2014 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

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Even in the face of the tough economy and high unemployment rate, studies have revealed that women believe that unemployment is a deal breaker in dating a man.


Of course it’s not uncommon for people looking for a relationship to keep a mental checklist of qualities required of their potential lovers, but a recent survey revealed that a whopping 75 percent of women had problems with dating an unemployed man.


In a survey, sponsored by  “FeaturedDate® Matchmaking Agency” we surveyed 925 single women and asked them a controversial & thought provoking question.


Would you date a unemployed man?


Our results found that only 4 percent of those surveyed answered “YES”


“Not having a job will definitely make it harder for men to date someone they don’t already know,”


* 75 percent of women who had problems with dating a man without a job;



33 percent said that unemployment was a deal breaker that cannot be overlooked;



* But a generous 43 percent said they would consider dating someone who was unemployed only if he was “getting back on track” to securing employment;



However, the survey revealed that men were far more open-minded when it comes to dating a woman without a job.


The survey revealed that almost:


  • * Two out of every three men are open to dating a woman without a job;


  • * 19 percent saying that there was no problem at all;


  • * 46 percent saying that they would but was also interested in knowing how the women spent their time;


Research has also shown that women were more concerned with men being “engaged in cheating activity” rather than having a huge paycheck. On the other hand, other women are afraid that dating an unemployed man will come with financial obligations.



Share Your Thoughts?


Tell us weather you believe the perspective of the women surveyed is superficial or does it come from a valid point of view?


Interview: 3 Single Men Where Asked? What They Really Want in A Woman

Posted on: July 19th, 2014 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

By: R.K. Battle, The New Carmen Jones of Dating, Professional Matchmaker & Date Coach


July 19, 2014


Most women can relate when I say we all have our insecurities. A lot of us don’t feel pretty when we don’t have our make-up on or our hair done. Is the reason women do not feel attractive because of the reactions of men? Girls are beginning to feel extreme insecurities in their young teen years due to the eye of society. Magazines for men such as Maxim promote the image that if you aren’t a super model, then you aren’t sexy. But, do all men really prefer the model looking female?


Woman need to first feel confident in themselves before they can become sexy to others. Once you have that inner confidence, you’ll be ready to face the world. We all know the saying “There’s many fish in the sea”, and there is! If you ever do encounter a bad situation with a man…don’t give up! All men are NOT the same and I do believe there is someone out there for all of us. Have the confidence to not settle for someone because you feel you can’t do better. You will find someone who excepts you for the real person inside if you open your eyes. We all have our Prince out there, so be that beautiful Cinderella you know you re capable of and don’t give up on your search!


After talking with a few local ladies, I went in search of single men to find some answers women want to know. As most of us girls are already aware, men can be extremely difficult to read. I’ve gone into the heart of things and interviewed three single males to find the real scoop on what they are thinking. Both men were asked to give their complete honest opinions and answers. Ken Mac, 23 years old, Malcom D. 21 years old, and Arnie, 38 years old.


What is the first thing that catches your attention when you meet a woman?

Ken: How she carries herself, confidence is sexy.
Arnie: How nice her figure is.


What bothers you the most in a woman?

Malcom: When they are always on the phone.
Ken: When they worry too much when we don’t talk. I can sit in a car with my best friend for two hours and not say anything, and its cool. But, if my girl is there she’ll be like “Whats wrong!? Why aren’t you talking to me!?” Sometimes I just like to enjoy the ride, that’s all.


Describe in your own words the perfect woman:

Ken: Someone who gets along well with my friends and family. I like when there is a lot of things we still have to learn together and are ambitious about it. I prefer a woman who is slightly shorter than me, into technology, likes kids, animals, and can defend herself. I like women in positions of leadership, and someone who is a little geeky like me. A woman who will let me be comfortable when I’m around her..a best friend. That’s all a guy can really ask for.
Malcom: A woman who I can make smile easily. Pretty is always a plus. I want someone who I have common interests with, and that is family oriented..but not too family oriented.
Arnie: I would consider her to be someone that looks sexy, both in body and mind. She can’t be a complete idiot. Someone who is spontaneous and will try crazy things with me.


Would you say sex is an important part of a relationship?

Ken: Yeah, it keeps it interesting. Trying new things with your partner is important, but one has to be patient with that aspect as well. It’s not a rush or a big race, each person is different. Discovering what they like is the beauty behind the sex in a relationship. But, if it isn’t working or the other person is unwilling and can only give 10%..move on.
Malcom: No.
Arnie: Yes, things get too bland without it. Sex keeps the spice in a relationship.


After my interviews, I went out and surveyed 20 different men (including the three) on two more questions women want to know!


When asked “Would you ever consider dating a woman that you didn’t find attractive, but treated you extremely well? ” 80% of the men answered NO, while the other 20% said YES.

The next question on my survey was “Would you prefer a woman who would have sex with you on the first date?” and surprisingly 75% said NO, 25% said YES. To be honest, I was expecting that ratio to be flipped around. I guess I’ve learned something new on my time out questioning different men! It was definitely an experience for me, and I hope it can shed some light on “What men really want in a woman.”


What are your thoughts about what these men want? Do you agree or Not?


The Perfect Woman & Still Single?

Posted on: July 14th, 2014 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Nicole interview


She is making career strides but still seeking Mr. Right!

Featured by: Mona Lisa Vito, Professional Matchmaker & Relationship Coach
~Nicole is celebrating another birthday. A 31-year-old black woman, she’s already a prosecuting attorney. Personable and direct, Nicole isn’t the kind of woman you find standing by passively on the sidelines of life. But you would find her, for example, at a football game, cheering on the team. You’ve heard of a man’s man. She is the quintessential man’s woman: She appears to have it all. And, yet, she’s still single. As a Single Professional she has plenty of company and her parameters are pretty flexible. So why is she still single?
Q: Nicole, why do you believe you are still single?
A: “I look forward to being married.”It’s just not that easy. For starters, there are 1.8 million more black women than black men. So even if every black man in America married a black woman today, one out of 12 black women still wouldn’t make it down the aisle if they hoped to marry a black man.
Q: What is your biggest concern?
A: “I would be lying if I said I don’t have fleeting thoughts of, ‘OK, I am 31, my clock is ticking,”
Q: Nicole do you feel you need to set aside certain standards in order to make it down the aisle?
A: “I’ve dated unemployed men, men trying to find themselves, struggling artists, rich men, and poor men. I’m even open to dating outside my race.”  
Q: Is there a difference between the standards you have for yourself and the standards you have for men?
A: “I kind of have certain standards that I hold myself to, and I don’t think I should have to settle on those for the sake of having somebody. I don’t have a certain criteria, however I used to, for example if you were not a certain height or age then it was a no go, but as I got older I wanted someone that we could see eye-to-eye.”
“In my past experience, I was at a restaurant and had a great conversation with a Caucasian man, she said. We were clicking and I am thinking at the end of the night he’s going to ask me for my number, because white men never ask for my number, and he said. ‘Great conversation, maybe I will see you around.’ And I was thinking, ‘What happened?’
Q: Do you feel like finding a good relationship is out of your control?
A:”The one thing that I can’t control is a man choosing to marry me,” Nicole said, and, so, I choose not to worry about it.”
Q: Has your prospective changed as you have gotten older?
A: “I am lonely, but having the faith I have and being the woman I am and waiting as long as I have, I can’t settle now. It’s not an option for me. So if I don’t find the perfect person for me, then I’ll just remain single.”

Love or Infatuation?

Posted on: June 6th, 2014 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Love or Infatuation

Infatuation is instant desire. It is one set of glands calling to another.

Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and places about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely.

It might spoil the dream.

Love is quiet understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his/her presence even when he/she is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him/her nearer, but near or far, you know he/she is yours and you can wait.

Infatuation says, “We must get married right away! I can’t risk losing you!”
Love says, “Be patient. Do not panic. Plan your future with confidence.”

Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.

Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she is away you wonder if he/she is cheating. Sometimes you check.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. Your beloved feels that also and that makes them even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret later, but love never will.

Love is elevating. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It lifts you up.

It makes you a better person.

Interview with a Single Christian Man From His Perspective

Posted on: March 19th, 2014 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle



John, a 33-year-old City firefighter in training, spoke out about living the single Christian life. One of his answers generated quite a discussion, so John is back to elaborate a little more on a topic that is bound to stir up further discussion: Is it okay for a woman to go after a man she wants?


Q: How would you feel if a woman who is attracted to you, approached you first and asked you out on a date?


John: Truthfully, I would feel flattered but not interested in going out with her.


Q: Why wouldn’t you want to go out with her?


John: For me, a woman asking me out takes the pursuit out of the experience. I think a woman should be sort of unattainable. When she’s unattainable it does that thing inside of a man and makes him hungry for her. But if she comes up to him, chances are the attraction won’t last.


Q: Some people argue that your way of thinking is old fashioned and women of today are more assertive and independent.


John: I’d say to them…you do it your way and I’ll do it God’s way and we’ll see whose relationship lasts longer.


Q: What biblical evidence do you have that makes you believe that’s God’s way?


John: Well, God made man first then he made woman. Thus starts the order of man pursuing a woman. God presented Eve to Adam, she did not present herself. Then you have the story of Jacob and Rachel. Jacob loved Rachel and he wanted her so much, he worked 14 years just to get her. This is the proper order. A man saw the woman he wanted and he worked to prove himself worthy of being her husband. This is the way life should be.


Q: Why do you think so many women think it’s good to pursue a man?


John: Because of movies, television and things of this world that portray things out of the order of God. Magazine articles telling women to dress a certain way and act a certain way to get a man. All of these things make a woman naturally attractive instead of supernaturally attractive.


Q: What do you mean by supernaturally attractive?


John: A woman is supernaturally attractive if she spends quality time with the Lord. She will exude God’s character and all of the qualities that will attract the man that her heart truly desires.


Q: There will be single Christian ladies reading this article who are praying for a husband.  What advice would you give them?


John: Seek the Lord, seek the Lord and seek the Lord!!! Any secret sins in your life, let them go. Get before the Lord and have Him search you out. Get your spiritual house in order first — and prepare yourself to be a wife.


What Colors Attract Men?

Posted on: March 1st, 2014 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

In the bird world, males are typically attracted to more vibrant colors than the female species.  Peacocks, drakes, roosters, etc., all use their colors to get the girl and set themselves apart from the competition.  If you have ever watched a group of courting peacocks fan their tails to impress the ladies, you know what a colorful show it can be.

So can we take a page from Mother Nature and use color to attract a guy?


In fact, there have been studies done on which colors produce the most favorable results in the dating world. These include:

Pink cocktail dress Pink:  Pink is just for little girls?  It’s not.  In several studies, pink scored highest with men because it’s seen as feminine and ultra-girly.  One woman I know who did an unscientific study reported that when she wore soft pink to a bar recently, she had more drinks bought for her that night than when she’d worn any other color.  She plans to repeat the experiment, just to be sure, LOL!
Peach Cocktail Dress Peach/Coral: Coming a close second were soft orange colors, because they closely resemble pink.  If you have cool coloring, wear pink.  If you have warm coloring, wear peach or coral.
Red Dress Red: Red is the color of romance and passion and is very popular with strong men looking for a challenge. Weak men tend to shy away from women who wear red, seeing them as headstrong and overpowering.  If you love the color red, be careful — the wrong shade can overpower you or highlight skin imperfections.  Chose your shade with care.
Blue Maxi Dress Blue: Blue is the most popular color in the world and is a symbol of business, strength, and trust.  Both men and women respond well to it.  If you happen to have blue eyes, match the color of your clothes to the color of your eyes and you’ll draw men to you like flies.
Green Cocktail Dress Green: Dark greens like emerald and forest tend to be seen as more business-like while light greens like lime and chartreuse tend to be seen as fun and flirty.  Note of caution: the lighter, yellow-based greens work best with warm skin tones.  If you have cool coloring, stick with the darker blue-based greens instead.
Black Cocktail Dress Black: Black is the color of both bad guys and the clergy, and tends to evoke mystery when worn by a woman.  If you have cool undertones, try black or dark gray; if you have warm undertones, try dark brown instead.
Gold cocktail dress Gold: Wearing gold projects a warmth that most men admire, but it’s best suited to women with warm undertones.
Silver cocktail dress Silver: Silver is seen as elegant and is the one color most associated with “cool” blondes.  Wear it if you have cool undertones.


So what colors don’t men like?


  • Purple
  • Lavender
  • Turquoise


Like pink, these colors are thought of as girly, but unlike pink, they don’t evoke as favorable a response.  If you feel the need to wear them, do so in small doses.


Now obviously, you may or may not be thinking about how to attract a man when you’re standing in front of your closet trying to decide what to wear in the morning, but if you are in the market for a guy – or trying to keep things new and interesting with your current guy – keep these color likes and dislikes in mind.


Just remember to save the girly colors and light pastels for after business hours – they’re NOT “power” colors.


For day wear or business wear, try blue, black, green or red.  For casual weekends, try pink, peach, red, blue or green.  For evening, opt for pink, black, gold, and silver.  You may not be “strutting your stuff” like a peacock, but you may be surprised by how well you’re treated.  Try it yourself and see!