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Interracial Dating: Finding true love wherever your heart leads you.

Posted on: January 26th, 2014 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle


Among opposite-sex married couples, one in 10 (5.4 million couples) are interracial & 18% of heterosexual unmarried couples (1.2 million couples) were of different races.


The data shows we are becoming much more of an integrated, multi-racial society,” says demographer William Frey of the Brookings Institution.Says sociologist Dan Lichter of Cornell University in Ithaca, N.Y., “This is a movement toward a post-racial society, but most social scientists would agree we’re a long way from a colorblind or post-racial society.


“Race is still a category that separates and divides us,” but “this might be evidence that some of the historical boundaries that separate the races are breaking down,” Lichter says.

Christelyn Karazin, 38, of Temecula, Calif., on Friday celebrates the 10th anniversary of her marriage to Michael Karazin, 39. She is black; he is white.


She says the Internet has allowed more people of different races to interact. She and her husband, who met online, “would never have met” otherwise. “He’s from Westport, Conn. His father is a judge. My parents are from the country in Texas. My mom picked cotton.”


Other trends in households:

•Non-family households rose 16% (34 million to 39 million).

•Households with just one person increased from 25.8% to 26.7%; among cities with 100,000 or more people, Atlanta and Washington had the highest percentage of one-person households, both 44%.

•Unmarried-partner households increased from 5.5 million to 7.7 million.

•Households with three or more generations rose from 3.9 million to 5.1 million; 9% of households in Hawaii were multigenerational, the highest percentage of any state.


Which proves that, finding love does not have a boundary nor specific expectation but instead can be found with an open mind and heart.


For original article: http://usatoday30.usatoday.com/news/nation/story/2012-04-24/census-interracial-couples/54531706/1

Sex, lies and video tape, cheaters caught in the act! How to catch a cheater…

Posted on: January 5th, 2014 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Determining if your partner is cheating may not always be as cut and dried as simply waiting for naked people to jump out of your bedroom closet. However, if you suspect that your partner may be cheating, researchers have identified several things that you can look for to confirm (or refute) your suspicions. There are two types of infidelity: emotional and sexual. If your partner is talking a lot about spending time with someone else (with whom you think they would consider having a relationship) or acting apathetic toward you, these behaviors may indicate either type of infidelity. Clues that your partner may be engaging in emotional infidelity include indications that your partner is unsatisfied with your relationship; reluctance to discuss a specific person; emotional disengagement; increased anger, guilt, anxiety, or hostility; and not wanting to spend time with you (of course, many of these may just mean he or she is just not that into you as well).

Indicators that your partner may be engaging in sexual infidelity include changes in the partner’s normal routine, changes in sexual interest (either lack of interest or exaggerated interest), and physical clues like lack of arousal. Women tend to be more sensitive to these cues, suggesting that they are more adept at monitoring for and identifying infidelity. Again, however, a very large and important caveat here is that these behaviors only suggest—and do not guarantee—that cheating is occurring.

Of course, in an ideal situation suspicions about a partner’s activities would not involve a private investigator-like monitoring.  Instead, the best course of action is to build a strong relationship founded on trust and open communication where any doubts about fidelity lead to open conversations rather than a hunt for evidence. If if makes you think twice, maybe there is a reason to dig deeper. However, be wise, pay attention to the signs and don’t jump to conclusions!

This article was adapted from the book Science of Relationships: Experts Answer Your Questions about Dating, Marriage, & Family.


Halloween Date Night For Singles

Posted on: October 31st, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

punkin Going out with someone on Halloween is a great way to ensure an atmosphere that is absolutely perfect for love. It may seem ironic that a holiday dedicated to monsters and ghouls could be romantic, but everyone knows that the best date movie is one which will scare your partner right into your arms.


At Halloween there are also a variety of exciting date idea’s, without having to go to a lot of trouble or expense. Some ideas include:



– Going to a Haunted House: Most communities have organizations such as schools or local cubs that set up haunted houses for the public at little or no cost


– Go to a Scary Movie: Horror movie makers schedule the release of the best movies for late October. Those who don’t, usually schedule the release of the DVD’s around this time


– Halloween Parties: A lot of people throw big monster mash balls to celebrate the holiday. Check your local bulletin or ask around.


– Major Public Events: Aside from haunted houses, communities will often throw parades, fairs, or carnivals for Halloween. One of the most famous is the parade held in Greenwich Village NY each year;


The bottom line is, Halloween is a great night for a date. The atmosphere is already inspired with excitement and fear, and the evening is usually full of built in activities which are fun and inexpensive. Best of all, people tend to be more uninhibited when dressed in a fantasy costume, so you never know what might happen next.

Is it Love or Infatuation?

Posted on: October 3rd, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Love or Infatuation

Infatuation is instant desire. It is one set of glands calling to another.
Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.

Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and places about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely.

It might spoil the dream.

Love is quiet understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his/her presence even when he/she is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him/her nearer, but near or far, you know he/she is yours and you can wait.

Infatuation says, “We must get married right away! I can’t risk losing you!”
Love says, “Be patient. Do not panic. Plan your future with confidence.”

Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. Whenever you are together, you hope it will end in intimacy.
Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.

Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she is away you wonder if he/she is cheating. Sometimes you check.

Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. Your beloved feels that also and that makes them even more trustworthy.

Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret later, but love never will.

Love is elevating. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It lifts you up.

It makes you a better person.

Progress: Moving to the Next Step

Posted on: June 8th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle



Marriage is a serious vow and commitment made by a couple to spend the rest of their lives together. By taking part in this journey called marriage, the lives of the people around you can change just as much as your own.  For some, the opinion about your significant other can hold serious weight.

What happens when the person you love and will be married to, is not to the liking of your close family members and friends? Do you stop loving them or do you move forward? A lot of people have difficulties in their marriage because different opinions from outside sources leak and intrude the establishment of the couple. This usually stems from not being able to let go of those who are close to you and holding in what they want or feel is best for you at a higher level than what you want for yourself. By partaking in this chain of reactions, it can be very difficult for you to move forward with the woman or man of your dreams. When you do not take in the idea of what you want and what you seek, you will never be happy.

For several people, family is such an important part in life because it is filled with your loved ones and those you really care for. Without family, many believe you don’t have anything, especially because it signifies so much; support system, love, laughter, strong wiliness, structure and much more. So the opinion of those close to you (family or friends) tends to matter more than your own.

There is nothing wrong with evaluating the opinion of others in your life especially when they are seeking your best interest but be cognizant and don’t forget what makes you happy. Balance is the strong objective when combining marriage and those who love you (family and friends.) To love both parties at an equal level may be challenging times but it is the best way to keep great relationships with those who mean the most to you.



Lack of Emotional Intimacy

Posted on: May 29th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle
Where does your emotional intimacy lie?

Where does your emotional intimacy lie?


Emotional intimacy has been crowned as one of the key factors to a successful relationship.


This method takes place when the levels of communication and trust are in sync with one another, which can be seen as a positive or negative. When distributed correctly, the result of great emotional intimacy brings a realm of bliss to a relationship. The lack of emotional intimacy can lead to the destruction and failure of a relationship and this is because, the couple are not on the same level and willing to work together.


Majority of the time, emotional intimacy is confused with physical intimacy (physicality) which brings forth a lot of miscommunication and false interpretation in a relationship. Naturally people can confuse the two by connecting the idea of sharing something personal between two people. The confusion leads to the gateway of failure and lack of one or the other i.e. high divorce rates, uncommitted relationships, lack of trust, etc.


Though it is different, physical attraction and physical intimacy are important factors within a romantic relationship as well but sometimes it overshadows the importance of emotional intimacy. Yes the physical aspect in a relationship is key but a lack of emotion will truly leave a bond high and dry.


When a relationship represents extensive levels of communication, love, loyalty, trust and understanding allows a couple to contribute to their most special feelings with one another; building their different levels of intimacy rather it is physical or emotional.


Believe it or not to be emotional connection with someone takes a lot. You have to be secure within yourself and be in tune with the emotions, thoughts, flaws and all because without it, a connection with someone else is almost impossible. By doing this, it will bring you to a level where you are able to share and connect with your significant other all by building your emotional levels of intimacy.



Forgiveness and Limits

Posted on: April 15th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Forgiveness is easy but forgetting is harder. It’s like that saying, I can forgive but will never forget. It’s hard to forget something that has taken an emotional and mental blow on you. I try never to hold grudges but I have friends that vow that their friendship/relationship will never be the same with others because of something that’s been done to them.


What do you think of this? Honestly, I may get frustrated and mad when someone hurts me but I find that I can easily forgive my good friends but it’s harder for me to forgive someone that I used to be in a relationship with. I think it may be because of the different kind of feelings that are involved but it takes me a longer period of time just to be able to forgive an ex-significant other… I hope this is a common thing and not just me!


Forgiveness… I believe it makes you a better person because why waste time holding grudges and having anger within yourself for a long period of time? I also firmly believe in trying to be the better person. I have to remind myself of this as well because sometimes I’d rather be angry. There’s no harm in letting out heat and anger but don’t let it consume you. You eventually have to move on in your life, and hopefully to bigger and better things.


So is forgiveness easy for you? What situations would you absolutely not tolerate? Grudges and anger a common thing for you?