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What Does Your Bestfriend Mean to You?

Posted on: June 1st, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

There is nothing like a close friend or best friend, especially when they are of the opposite sex; kind of gives you the best of both worlds.

Your best friend is a person who knows your ins and outs, what makes you click, likes and dislikes and most importantly a person you confide in. When your BFF is of the opposite sex, does it complicate certain things or does it make them easier? Sure you have the best of both worlds and you are able to get the inside scoop on how guys truly feel or what women really think but do tables begin to turn when the idea of relationship is at hand.

When it comes to dating a close friend it can be a sensitive subject. More than likely the history shared between the two parties is so special and significant, the risk of damaging the strong bond may not be worth it. Rather people know it or not, crossing paths from friends to lovers is complicated. The action itself can jumble the concept, details and obligations set forth in a friendship which can lead to chaos and disruption. In friendship a bond is continuously growing but when paths cross and roles make a significant change, more than likely the friendship you once knew or had, no longer exists.

On the higher end of things, the role reversal is not always a bad thing and this suffices when the connection and bond shared between the two people is strong and genuine. At times this will allow the relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend, husband and wife or dating, grown immensely. The downfall of this situation occurs when you believe you knew that person in and out but once the line is crossed and dating is involved, you discover certain things that are opposite of what “you knew.” If things begin to spiral downhill you not only lost a potential mate but you have lost your friend as well and all of the bonding and significant history that you two have built may not appear as clear as it once was before.

A true friendship can hold a significant amount of weight rather it is someone of the opposite sex or not, it’s genuine. Value the bond and connection that you may share, let it grow and progress.

-C.Johnson

Do You Want to Have Your Cake and Eat It Too?

Posted on: May 8th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 26 Comments

If a man tells a woman he only wants to be friends, why will he still show interest insinuating that he wants to be something more? Unfortunately this is a very common tactic not only used by men but women as well.

A lot of people want to have their cake and eat it too but as most of us know, it is very hard to do this. Someone will always benefit while the other person involved is losing out on something they really want. As you have seen in movies such as “No Strings Attached” and “Friends with Benefits,” once a friendship turns physical, emotions get involved and things become complicated.

Though men are looked upon as being physical beings, the idea of being physical with “your friend” still complicates the situation. Men may be physical but never like when things are turned around on them. Being physical is a man’s weakness in this type of situation. From a male’s perspective, if his female friend whom he has been dealing with physically, grows annoyed and decides to walk away from the situation to be in a real relationship, the levels of jealousy will gradually grow. The comfort level that he once had with her will no longer exist and without a comfort level, what will he have to go back to; not a friendship.

For women the trouble is in the emotional aspect. She treats you as if you were her boyfriend, does all the things a girlfriend would do but instead of stopping her, you continue to reap from the benefits. When she questions you about your status or what’s going on between you two, you hit her with the same line, “we’re just friends.” For women, since they are emotional, when they love or care for someone they usually give their all. Once her emotions are tainted with you, being a friend has gone out the window and though she may say “you’re still friends,” the friendship will not be the same.

Less than or More than

So ask yourself, is it less than a relationship or more than a friendship? And if you’re still questioning yourself, it may be time to walk away.

-C.Johnson