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Taking Control

Posted on: January 26th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Countdown to Valentine’s Day: 21 days

Lesson #6 is about “taking control”: You have to realize that you have to take control of your own life. You are the captain in charge of your ship– no one else. You should be an independent, happy, goal-oriented and strong person before you start getting into a serious relationship. Realize your self-worth and know that you deserve to be treated well by your potential mate. Don’t be afraid to tell someone what you like and your opinions but realize that you may not always be right. Stay classy and in control.

The core of the problem

Posted on: January 24th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

This post is our lesson from yesterday when there were 24 days left until Valentine’s Day! Here’s another lesson from our love matchmaker, Romella.

Lesson 3: Identify the core of the problem: Contrary to what many people believe, a great percentage of how we interact with our mate in a relationship is a learned behavior. It is conditioned by what we have seen and heard throughout our early years of growing into an adult. Behavior can be picked up both consciously and unconsciously through the people and environment that we were raised in.

Now understand this: these behavior patterns don’t necessarily have to be bad. They may of course be good, although when you intertwine your behavior with someone that conflicts with your own relationship beliefs. Then that’s when the conflict occurs. Remember, no matter how your previous relationships ended, you share some responsibility for its failure. One of the key things we must do is spend time preparing for our ultimate ideal mate. This really means just taking the time to identify what it is you really want from a relationship, what kind of partner might give you that in a relationship, as well as identifying any patterns from the past that may lead back to a faulty destination.

Serial Monogamy- yes or no?

Posted on: January 17th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Decades ago, people used to DATE. You can imagine in the 1950s where young people went to soda shops or hung out at the drive-ins in their colored Cadillacs. Fooling around, sure but sex was considered taboo. I would say to imagine the movie “Grease” but they had more sexual innuendos than I would like for this example.

However, move on a few years later, free love ran around as free as the people. Move farther on into the 80s and 90s and people became more careful because of sexual diseases. Those decades prepared us for sexual education classes, raising awareness of sexual diseases and more. Therefore, serial monogamous dating does exist but I still fear that there will become more hook-ups instead of seriously dating.

In my own opinion, I would rather have a few serious relationships instead of a lot of hook-ups. I’m just not that kind of girl. No judgment because if you want to get some action, then go for it. I have friends who would rather hook-up because they want to, and that’s fine. To each their own! I know they want to find the right guy or girl for them later on and that’s all that matters. J I also know that some people prefer to keep their options open. Honestly, I’m not looking for a serious relationship at the moment but it’s always an option. :)

So what’s your opinion on serial monogamy? Yes, no, maybe so?

**To read the article that inspired this post, read more here: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/julia-plevin/the-latest-in-college-dat_b_160648.html

Top 5 Online Dating Site Trends

Posted on: January 15th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

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The newest trends in online dating sites are the following:

1) More Hookups. (Last year online, there were more than 17 million people that tried to cyberflirt their way to a love connection. More sites. More people. More opportunities to have that first date kiss.)
2) Niche Markets. (There are at least 92 million single Americans. There are dating sites that people go to and where there’s less people, there’s a chance that you will meet someone that has more in common with you.)
3) Tasting Different Flavors. (There are successful sites like Jewish Singles “JDate” that can prove that ethnic-specific dating sites really do have a market!)
4) The Rise of Non-Date Dating Sites (Facebook is basically a dating site as it is to a social network. Mashable actually asked readers the question “which social network is most likely to get you laid?” and Facebook came in with 800 votes, 2^nd to Myspace.)
5) Online Again, Offline Again. (There is an increasing number of online sites from offline communities like high school and university alumni groups. Such sites, like reunion.com or classmates.com. help you specify dating preferences and therefore helping you meet a possible partner online and offline.

Do you have anything to add that YOU think should be on this list?? Let me know by leaving a comment! :)

***This information came from this article: http://mashable.com/2008/09/11/online-dating-site-trends/. Credit given to them.

Love quotes discussed, #2

Posted on: December 26th, 2012 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

“Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should never part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion.” – Louis de Bernieres, “Captain Corelli’s Mandolin”

I think this is a beautiful quote. Do you think that this is true- that this is what love is? It takes a hold of you to never let go. It’s the madness that you love and hate at the same time that slowly takes over you but you can’t and don’t want to stop it.

I love the part where it tells you that “you have to make a decision”. You have to decide if “your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should never part”. I find this so true and it speaks to me because you really do have to make a decision if you should let yourself go and fall completely. I feel like you shouldn’t feel afraid to let your guard down and let that special someone in. You may be scarred with previous relationship problems but this does not mean that you will be hurt the next time someone new comes along. They may just be the one.

Even though I think that love actually is “breathlessness… excitement… not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion”, it is not only that. It really involves looking deep into your soul and letting yourself go. Because you’re worth it!

Meeting the parents!

Posted on: December 22nd, 2012 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Was it horrifying? Was it easy? For those who have met your significant other’s parents, let us know!

From my personal experience, my family already knew one of my ex-boyfriend’s parents because we had been family friends. So check “meeting his parents” off that list! However, there was another ex-boyfriend when it was awkward meeting his parents… the “being in his house alone not doing anything but bumping into them” kind of awkward. The most recent ex-boyfriend I’ve had though, I met his parents but it wasn’t very planned out. We were coming back from an outing with friends and decided to stop by his house so he could pick something up. I was a bit nervous and worried but his parents were so nice and welcoming. It was easy to be around them and not awkward at all. They really made an effort to make me feel at ease and I really appreciated that. I honestly will probably send them a Christmas card thanking them for everything they did for me in the time period when I was still with their son, haha. They were that welcoming!

Tips and tricks from my experience:
1) be nice
2) compliment their home/son or daughter whom you are dating
3) be polite
4) engage in conversation
5) be yourself!

Good luck if any of you are meeting your mate’s parents anytime soon! Does anyone else have any tips or tricks of their own?

Rejuvenate your relationship!

Posted on: December 19th, 2012 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 10 Comments

Sometimes couples reach that point in a relationship where the “honeymoon” phase is over. They then maybe reach a point of complacency which sometimes there is less effort put in by either one or both partners. This may create a break in the relationship which could even result in the end of the relationship. I can personally attest that I have felt that complacency in my own relationships and it definitely takes effort from both partners to continue building that relationship.

So how do you rejuvenate your relationship that may be slowly settling into
complacency? Some tips are:
1) prioritize your relationship (don’t take your partner for granted even if
you are very comfortable with each other. Show effort!)
2) communicate and listen to each other (one of the most important things of a relationship!)
3) remember that sometimes the little things matter the most (small tokens of
appreciation cost nothing but mean the world!)
4) spend some time apart (don’t get me wrong, spending regular time together is
important and essential BUT it can be very effective to spend some time apart-
allow yourself to miss each other… excessive togetherness alienates your other
relationships in your life.)

Don’t settle for complacency! Be aware and be there for your partner. It may require
more work and effort from both of you but if your relationship and partner are worth
it for you, it will grow even stronger and better in the future.

**Here’s an article I got my tips from: http://www.ehow.com/how_8430764_rejuvenate-love.html.