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Power Couples… You inspire me.

Posted on: December 15th, 2017 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Pinky: “Gee, Brain, what do you want to do tonight”?

Brain: “The same thing we do every night, Pinky – try to take over the world”!pinky

For those that remember, without “pinky” there was no “brain” and vise versa.

The words “Power couples” might be a catch-phrase that sets the tone of the relationship, but it is also something that is proving to be true. Power couples do things differently, but what makes a power couple? Let’s look at some examples of those who have been wildly successful individually, as well as seem to have an unbreakable relationship bond.

Barack and Michelle Obama, Bill and Hillary Clinton, Kelly Rippa and Michael Consuelos, Will and Jada Smith and

Duane and Tisha Campbell-Martin.

Not everyone is this successful and wealthy, but then being a power couple is not only reserved for the mega wealthy and successful. Just about every crowd features at least one of these couples.

They are awesome together, and awesome people as individuals too.

They support each other completely and don’t depend on anyone for their sense of self-worth.

This couple has that something special that people can see immediately, and it lights up the world.

Lets take a look at some more of these essential keys.

They are optimistic and know they have value.

Each of them makes up for what the other might lack, and they are key confidantes.

They work hard to improve their own individuality as well as, as a pair.

Working constantly and confidently to become better connected.

They work harder to deserve one another.

A couple such as this supports each-others pursuits and ambitions completely, and are equal partners.

Both of them value equality, and will do their fair share inside the home, as well as outside the home.

For example Bill and Hillary Clinton. They support each of the others political ideologies and careers. She supported his aspirations when he was President, and he championed for her and supported her 2016 presidential run.

Power couples make time for themselves, and time to be together. They often exercise together and enjoy the same sort of sporting activities, and can spend time on their own passion projects.

When their relationship is no longer working they stick together to work it out, or know when to call it quits, and are private about it.

Evolving separate careers as well as a family together is the kind of thing that successful power couples do.

They are both already complete when they meet, equal in attitude, style, and often finance and career.

They come from every neck of the woods from the trailer park to the highest echelon of super stardom, to overcome the odds together by simply being all that they can both possibly be.

They do not sacrifice career ambitions, they compromise, and don’t need to validate one another as being worthy.

These are not glamorous appendages to a successful or powerful spouse, they are equal in everything. Will Smith said it best “If you are absent during my struggle, don’t expect to be present during my success”. This is kind of commitment is for better or for worse.

When we focus on fixing what’s wrong, we focus on the problem.

“Whatever we focus our attention on will inevitably grow.”

Instead, work together to focus on solutions, strengths and goals.

Enjoy the Journey …

THE MAIN WOMAN vs. THE OTHER WOMAN

Posted on: June 5th, 2016 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Determining if your partner is cheating may not always be as cut and dry as simply waiting for naked people to jump out of your bedroom closet. However, if you suspect that your partner may be cheating, researchers have identified several things that you can look for to confirm (or refute) your suspicions.

~There are two types of infidelity: emotional and sexual. If your partner is talking a lot about spending time with someone else (with whom you think they would consider having a relationship) or acting apathetic toward you, these behaviors may indicate either type of infidelity.
Common signs that you may be the other woman:

1. He only calls you after 11pm. Let’s face it, if he can’t call you doing normal business hours, you are not his woman. If the only time he can pick up the phone (or text) you is doing standard booty call hours you have to ask yourself who he’s calling when he’s not calling you.

2. The only time he calls is when he wants sex. Regardless of the hour of day he’s calling, if the only time he calls is when he’s looking for a little bedroom action, well he may like your lady parts but he definitely doesn’t like you.

3. You haven’t met any of his friends and family. If a guy is really into a chick he’s going to (eventually) introduce her to friends and family. At the very least his friends and family will be aware that you exist. If you’ve never met anyone who is close to him, there is a good reason why and it’s not one that’s good for you.

4. He never takes you out. If the only thing he wants to do is hang out at the house and he never takes you out or attempts to take you out, there’s a reason for that. Believe me if he’s not taking you out, there’s a good chance that he ‘s out with someone else. And even if he’s not dating someone else, his unwillingness to take you out is a good sign that he hasn’t any real interest in you. You are definitely not his woman.

5. You don’t know how he spends his time when he’s not with you. If you’re clueless about how he spends his time when he’s not with you, then you don’t know him and if you don’t know him, you’re not his woman. If you ask him, “what did you do today,” and his answers are always vague, well just assume he was doing things (or spending time with someone) he doesn’t want you to know about. And if that is the case…well…you’re better off finding another man ’cause the one you have isn’t yours.

Clues that your partner may be engaging in emotional infidelity include indications that your partner is unsatisfied with your relationship; reluctance to discuss a specific person; emotional disengagement; increased anger, guilt, anxiety, or hostility; and not wanting to spend time with you (of course, many of these signs may just mean that he is just not as interested in being in a relationship with you, the same way you would want to be in a relationship with him.
Indicators that your partner may be engaging in sexual infidelity include changes in the partner’s normal routine & changes in sexual interest. Women tend to be more sensitive to these cues, suggesting that they are more adept at monitoring for and identifying infidelity. Again, however, a very large and important caveat here is that these behaviors only suggest—and do not guarantee—that cheating is occurring.
Of course, in an ideal situation suspicions about a partner’s activities would not involve a private investigator-like monitoring. Instead, the best course of action is to build a strong relationship founded on trust and open communication where any doubts about fidelity lead to open conversations rather than a hunt for evidence. If if makes you think twice, maybe there is a reason to dig deeper. However, be wise, pay attention to the signs and don’t jump to conclusions!

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The Balance

Posted on: July 13th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

How important is the physicality in a relationship? Can it be the making or breaking point at times or is it somewhat unnoticed?

Physical intimacy is very important within a relationship. Sure it may need other aspects to aide and support the notion but let alone it is still important. For those who have been in relationships or commitments for years will explain how keeping the fire burning can be a very challenging situation at times but without it a glitch can arise within your relationship.

Most women are naturally in tune with their emotions leading them to be strong in that aspect; even thought they can be looked upon as emotional beings. This is why they look forward to the emotional bond being shared within a relationship but love to combine the emotional and the physical. Men also can be very in tuned with their emotions but are not as easily shown like those of a woman. Men are truly physical beings but a man who can combined both aspects within a relationship will truly make his lady happy.

A relationship should entail many characteristics such as commitment, loyalty, trust but don’t forget the adventure, enjoyment, excitement and keeping things feeling fresh and new those are the key things to elongating a relationship. You wouldn’t let a rose bush just shrivel and die you care for it so it can blossom and grow.

-C.Johnson

Kamikaze

Posted on: July 11th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Kamikaze love….

In too deep from the jump

I have placed my all, my everything

Laid out for us both

I just want you to see the feelings that lie deep inside of a tough shell

I want you to know everything because this is my last and final love

If I’m diving in there is not coming back

Either we stay here together or I’ll disappear forever

No more breakups to makeups

I’m done with wanting and yearning

I love loving you, I love us but if it ever ends

There is no more love.

-C.Johnson

Tapping Out

Posted on: July 2nd, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Most relationships have its ups and downs just as most things in life but when is enough just enough and there are no more ways of crossing the line? If needed, when should a person tap out and move on?

Did you know, in the United States roughly 30 to 60% of all married individuals will partake in acts of infidelity and if that’s not enough, divorce rates are just as high.

The act of cheating is not always from a physical standpoint but it is a common way of infidelity.
It is becoming more ordinary among people under the age of 30 and many believe the increase levels of cheating, stems from time spent away from a spouse. As they say, when the cat’s away the mice will play: people who spend a lot of time away from their significant other become victims to this madness. It becomes easier to develop a habit of having multiple sexual partners before getting married.

Physically it has been proven that men are more likely to cheat than women but with the increased levels of infidelity, statistics have shown women that are financially independent begin to act more like men with respect to infidelity. It is sad to say but during times like this it almost seems challenging to trust your own partner because of the unknown.

In a relationship, trust and respect are two important and vital signs which aides a couple to move forward and progress. Along with trust, when couples reach a certain level in their relationship, expectations and dependency becomes very evident but what happens if the trust is betrayed.

-C.Johnson

Social Media and Your Relationship

Posted on: June 29th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Social media has become one of the largest bases of networking within our society. Most people are so in tune with social media, it is the first thing they check when they wake up, when they are on a lunch break or even before they go to bed. The influence of this form of communication is so heavy it has even taken over the dating world.

Rather people know it or not or even deny it, social media does influence relationships especially in the present time. You will know if you are a participant within this stage if you have ever seen a post on Facebook or Instagram about your significant other that made you look at them twice, question where they have been in the last few hours or who another person is.

Social media has it perks as well as it downfalls when it comes to relationships and this is because so many people express their whole life story through these sources, if you’re mad at him or her you can easily post a tweet on twitter or a status on Facebook. Even if you are happy and everything appears to be in bliss you can express that as well but basically the exposure of your life is in the spotlight of millions of people; how does this affect a relationship?

-C.Johnson

When is it Enough?

Posted on: June 26th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

The in between stages of dating or getting to know a person can be a very trying time especially when a person is truly into someone. Is it the idea of commitment that prevents a person or a couple from moving forward, the fear of failing when trying to be the ideal mate or even the lack of confidence, these could all be possible factors when it comes to harvesting in the in between stage.

All in all there can be many reasons but staying in one stage and not moving on to the next level can become a hindrance of becoming a potential couple or not becoming one. It is natural for most people to go through different phases before moving completely into a relationship which may usually entail getting to know a person; talking and dating.

For those who do fall victim to the in between stage, can seek ways to diminish the problem. Most importantly you must know if your opposite is aware of your feelings and you are aware of theirs as well. Being on the same page is a key factor when it comes to being in a relationship or dating and without that aspect being in the stage of the unknown can be an everlasting journey.

No one likes feeling confused and lost which is why a lot of times a person can easily grow frustrated when they want to move forward and something or someone is holding them back. These different stages toward dating are not always considered to be confusing and frustrating tactics because couples will use this time to build as a unit. Those who decide to take the certain path including the “in between” stage can use the tactic as an opportunity to learn more about one another, making it easier when it is time to move on to the bigger picture which can be a relationship or even marriage.

-C.Johnson