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Taking the Lead

Posted on: June 22nd, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Men are usually looked upon for being the initiator and taking control. Whether it is a date, number exchange or an encounter toward having sex, men are constantly placed in that dominant role. So what happens if there was a twist on taking control, leaving roles to be reversed. Men, If women began taking the lead would you be as receptive or would you feel out of place?

As a female when you are interested in a man and want to go out on a date, more than likely you are waiting for him to make that step to ask you out. Even if a woman gives a hint as to what she wants, the man will more than likely be looked to take the initiating role. With changing times comes slight role reversals as well leaving women to take different steps with being the initiator. A lot of times it is stereotyped that men are not always serious when it comes to dating or going after commitment, it takes them a little more time than the average woman. For women, knowing what they want is the fire under the burner which will press them to go after what it is that they want. Now most time a woman will not chase a man down but if it is something she wants and he is not moving at a decent pace, she may have a way of altering that.

Some women are very bold and love taking that first step by making the first move. Just like men, women know exactly what they want and at times are just as bold with their approach. Men, let’s explore this a little.. Would it catch you off guard or would you be intimidated if a woman decides it is time for her to take control and would you accept the reversal of roles?

-C.Johnson

What is Love?

Posted on: June 13th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

According to about.com the definition of dating is the object of two people getting to know each other on different levels including romance. Clearly if you are dating someone it implies you are interested in more than just a friendship or a casual relationship. You are aiming to learn any and every thing about that person because there is an intention to progress as a unit instead of one. Dating is looked upon as a positive reflection but is it something that can be abused?

New and profound love can be so refreshing and fulfilling that a person can appear to be stuck in the clouds. Along with the idea of love being so fresh and new, comes the object of affection; since the aspects of dating or being in a relationship are fresh and innovative. This is the stage where the desire or want to constantly be around a person is at an all time high.
Love can place people in such a positive aura leading them to express their feelings and emotions at all causes, even in the public eye. When love hits the air, people will know it and may even see it. Rather it’s a kiss on the cheek, a bouquet of flowers, a surprise get-a-way or romantic evening, the expression of feelings can run really deep.

Within these deep feelings, new and profound love will seem to be one of the things a person will think about. Rather it’s your dream girl or guy, whenever you’re around them, the expression of feelings is clear in sight.

-C.Johnson

Listen to the Heart or Follow the Mind

Posted on: June 12th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

How many times do you hear, “follow your heart and not your mind?” it is one of the most common concepts when it comes to dating, relationships or love in general. The heart vs. the mind is one of the most difficult battles you may find within yourself and one of the most difficult of situations when it comes to love.

When it comes to the heart, one of the major drives or factors are from the emotional aspect. Emotions can be known to make or break a personal outlook of an important individual because it’s the expression of how you feel; rather good or bad, emotions tell it all. Some people can be more in tune with their feelings than others, making it very easy for them to use the heart when evaluating their feelings for someone. Though emotions are apart of the main drive of a person, they can also work against you at times. With feelings or emotions, the ability to make a person vulnerable or out of the usual comfort zone is not a hard concept to obtain which can make things difficult when it comes to a relationship or dating. Being vulnerable and in the unknown can lead a person to confusion, frustration with the idea of waiting on the next level or next step if any. This is when confusion may begin to set in and leads a person to look at the mind for advice or what to do next.

Certain things begin to shift once the object of the mind is placed in the picture. The mind itself is known to be more of the blunt and upfront aspect for decisions. As a shield and protector of the emotions, the mind will let a person know when enough is enough and could care less how much an individual may love a person or care for them. If the mind receives a glimpse or slight idea that you are not receiving the treatment it feels you deserves, there is no problem for the mind to shut out the emotional concept; once a mind is made up it can be difficult to change. Even as a protector, it can also play tricks, leading the person to believe in something that may not completely be what’s expected. This is why many people say expect the unexpected because at times when listening to the mind over thinking or not thinking thoroughly can occur.

As the idea of dating or being in a relationship approaches finding balance between the emotional point and the will of a strong mind is the best way to sort through the overall journey as a whole. In a relationship or in the object of love, these two strong accessories will battle at times but it’s up to you to discover which side you will listen to.

-C.Johmson

True Love can be Hard to Come By

Posted on: June 6th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

Have you ever asked yourself why people search high and low for the dedicated, genuine, long term kind of love? For those who are looking for a long term commitment and relationship, dating is only a step within the process of finding the person who compliments them. No one really wants to spend their life dating without progress being made; the difference between treating dating as a game and a serious notion.

Once the idea and object of dating is taking seriously, love can be found but it can also slip out of your hands before you know it. On occasion, when a person finds the specific kind of love they’re looking for, why does it seem to slip away too easy? Actions like this may occur if a couple is together for a while and the excitement or passion that once burned deeply in the relationship , is not as strong as it once was. The relationship filled with strong will and fight for love seems more like a battlefield between two people disputing over different emotions, opinions and values; failure within a relationship.

As a relationship turns to turmoil more than likely it is the lack of working together as one or an uproar of neglect. Neglect can be one of the most poisonous objects to hit a relationship because it can happen without a person realizing it. Studies have shown high levels of neglect within married couples which leads to higher divorce rates. Most of the time neglect is inflicted by the male figure or the least emotional person within the relationship and sometimes the person does not even realize what they are doing until it is too late. This is why it’s not only important to solidify your love for one another but also being cognizant of the actions taking place throughout the relationship is key.

For some, finding a good thing in their mate can be a challenge and time consuming, so why neglect and treat them poorly?

-C.Johnson

Do You Want to Have Your Cake and Eat It Too?

Posted on: May 8th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 26 Comments

If a man tells a woman he only wants to be friends, why will he still show interest insinuating that he wants to be something more? Unfortunately this is a very common tactic not only used by men but women as well.

A lot of people want to have their cake and eat it too but as most of us know, it is very hard to do this. Someone will always benefit while the other person involved is losing out on something they really want. As you have seen in movies such as “No Strings Attached” and “Friends with Benefits,” once a friendship turns physical, emotions get involved and things become complicated.

Though men are looked upon as being physical beings, the idea of being physical with “your friend” still complicates the situation. Men may be physical but never like when things are turned around on them. Being physical is a man’s weakness in this type of situation. From a male’s perspective, if his female friend whom he has been dealing with physically, grows annoyed and decides to walk away from the situation to be in a real relationship, the levels of jealousy will gradually grow. The comfort level that he once had with her will no longer exist and without a comfort level, what will he have to go back to; not a friendship.

For women the trouble is in the emotional aspect. She treats you as if you were her boyfriend, does all the things a girlfriend would do but instead of stopping her, you continue to reap from the benefits. When she questions you about your status or what’s going on between you two, you hit her with the same line, “we’re just friends.” For women, since they are emotional, when they love or care for someone they usually give their all. Once her emotions are tainted with you, being a friend has gone out the window and though she may say “you’re still friends,” the friendship will not be the same.

Less than or More than

So ask yourself, is it less than a relationship or more than a friendship? And if you’re still questioning yourself, it may be time to walk away.

-C.Johnson

Beautiful No Matter What!

Posted on: March 9th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle

First of all, happy international women’s day! (Even though women should be celebrated everyday..)

Self-image… sometimes when someone looks in the mirror, he or she sees a completely different image than in reality. Some people are never satisfied with how their body looks and are self-conscious. I can honestly say that sometimes I am unhappy with my body but I am so grateful for my amazing friends who help me and realize that I am beautiful no matter what. I dance at least 3 times a week and I don’t gorge on food… I’ve recently given up eating so much meat/eating meat at all and I would call myself healthy. You definitely cannot end up having a healthy body in a few days but you can start RIGHT NOW!

No matter what you may think of your body, you should realize that you are a beautiful and amazing person no matter what. If you are! It’s extremely hard for some people to realize that but reminders every so often doesn’t hurt either. If you are with someone who doesn’t realize that or let you know that he or she thinks you are beautiful/amazing/great sometimes, then let me tell you that you DESERVE BETTER. You deserve someone who will make you feel beautiful, even with no makeup or hair products, at any time of day. Don’t settle for less!

Just remember that you are beautiful, an amazing person and be proud of who you are!

Dating On the Phone?

Posted on: February 28th, 2013 by Executive Matchmaker Romella Battle 10 Comments

Let me shoot some personal thoughts and questions at you really quick.

Some of you may even be reading this on your smartphones right now. Smart phones are taking over the world… honestly! I know I got sucked into the smart phone hype (100% admit it but still not going to give up my iPhone5) but technology seems like it’s taking over everyone’s lives. Some people would rather text or call on the phone instead of going out and hanging out with them in REAL LIFE.

The newer generations of children are placed in the struggle. I know young toddlers that know how to operate a smart phone but can’t say full sentences yet. Isn’t that crazy?! It befuddles my mind honestly.

I know one way to communicate with someone you may have just met or just went on a date with, is to text them while you two cannot see each other in the day(s). It’s a good way of communication, I admit it. The phone and/or the Internet- emails, texts, calls, a post on her/his Facebook wall. It just seems like reality is losing its touch sometimes- especially when someone would rather do everything online instead of going out into the real world and attempting to navigate their way.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not trying to insult the way that people are using their electronics. It’s a really convenient and free way for me to contact my family in overseas (thank you Skype) or voice-call my friends hands- free (Voxer and smart phones!) as well as keep in touch with a potential mate by sending them a quick text while running my other errands. ;)

One note though: don’t depend on your smartphone. You still need skills in the real world, everyone! :)